Cheers guys, taken all that in... I think! They're not making things easier to work on!
Well I picked a set of lights up yesterday, genuine xenons with LED's, pair of wiring adaptors and a bcm.
The bcm is 086, but that was taken out of the same car with the lights, so I'm guessing it's software is right.
I'm going to hook up vag com tomorrow to check my bcm, how do I see what software it's running?
I've just been through all links of links of links regarding byte 18, and I'm now officially scared to touch it!!!
Forgot to mention my car has led rear lights and number plate lights, all fitted as standard (as far as I'm aware)
Cheers