Well then you only have yourself to blame. The kickdown switch is very noticeable. 
And don't forget, the DSG has an 'intelligent kickdown' too.

It can have as much 'intelligent' bits and pieces as VAG deem appriopriate...but it still doesn't axcuse manual not being manual.
DSG isn't - mechanically speaking - an automatic gearbox in the accepted sense, it's an automated manual...so why when you choose to control the logic using your brain, and not an electronic one, can't it just leave you to it, as other manufacturers automated manuals do?
In auto, I would be happy for the ECU to use as much learning and 'intelligent' calculations as it sees fit..but in manual, it should move to the correct gear when you ask it to (within the mechanical limits of the engine) - which it doesn't...it moves when it wants to (you can't just tap straight down 3 gears if the engine revs and road speed make it safe to do so, as it'll drop one, then wait, then wait again) and should remain in the gear 'you' selected until 'you' change it.
That would be what manual means.
You shouldn't have to worry about pressing the pedal down too far in manual either...it should just stay in the damn gear yoiu select. End of.
In auto, fine...do what it wants and you'd learn to adapt to it.
But in manual, it should mean manual. And it doesn't.