My view is if you're in Race mode and you're nailing it, you're concentrating on driving rather than the music - and you want to hear the soundaktor doing it's bit. I actually turn the music down when I'm driving it hard as I love the sound 
Clearly MH! But then if you're going to buy and drive an R, why drive it like it's a normal Golf? Surely the whole point is to enjoy what the car was built for, and the car loves being driven like its stolen
I think maybe am1w should have stuck to his BMW crusier - I actually feel sorry for his R, the poor car just wants to be let loose but he keeps it on the leash - maybe he doesn't feel safe in it because the door isn't hung right? 
Now, now Mr Nutjob, people get told off for baiting you know

I bet you can see and hear your R coming from miles off, with the maxxed up sound and lights. In fact I'm sure I can hear it from my office window right now
I agree about Race mode, this is when you will want to hear the Soundaktor at its loudest. But, sadly there will be times when I may need to use other modes. Realistically, I’m probably not going to be doing the school run in full-on Race mode, although it does involves some tasty quiet rural roads…..tempting

As Remlapeel says, it’ll probably be a case of just choosing a quieter mode when the music is the priority – surely that’s the benefit of having the different modes at your fingertips.
MH - I have no issues whacking up the volume if needs be but that would defeat the object of both the Soundaktor and Dynaudio.