Update:
So after realising they have a big contract with my old mans company and the one I work for, things seem to be getting better.
They have arranged for their "refurb" guy who aparently has done monza wheels before and just invested in the latest machinery etc etc to do the job. we will see.
They want my car friday for a couple of hours, which I will stay around to see whats going on.
The wheel is going to be refurbed, so thats as good as admitting liability finally. if im unhappy with the refurb I want a new wheel.
Cheers dino for the tip on marking the wheel, whats the best way to do this?