I know 5 months!!

, i have learnt so much as you said!
Funny thing is that the isv controller arrived this morning from radicool vw

- so i have a spare now! as the new one i put in was sent form 'bishthe fish' from the clubgti forum (free of charge also) dubbers are so kind! amazing help from alot of people!
The other relay hanging down looks like it's part of the original wiring as the wires are in the foam stuff as it goes back up throught the dash (although it could have been put on afterwards i guess)
It is definately a relay, i can't remember the number on it now, but it was either 21,24 or 28!
i'll check later