Oops. Was just thinking out loud really. I was thinking that the classic symptoms of valve seals show up more on deceleration than at idle when the vacuum is higher (to my knowledge anyway).
Saying that the powdery black stuff suggests oil being burnt, so it's either valve seals, blocked crank case breather or something else, and I was wondering what the something else might be.
Cylinder pressure finding it's way into the oil system would probably force oil out of your dipstick hole or make a hissing noise when the stick is removed.
You sure that your PCV valve (black mushroom thing) is working ok? That being faulty would probably cause your symptoms aswell.
I think you'll find it's most likely to be valve seals.