Regarding the misaligned steering wheel - mine was like it (and still is) from brand new, but not by very much at all, and SWMBO doesn't complain.
If you look in my sticky
http://www.golfgtiforum.co.uk/index.php?topic=54324.0, and download the latest pdfs in the steering section, you will see that you can't just remove the wheel and rotate it one spline, as that will move it 15 degrees

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You would also need to recalibrate the G85 steering angle sensor for the ESP.
Actually, any competent mechanic should know how to correct a misaligned wheel, simply by tweaking the tie rod adjustments.
Regarding those who had aftermarket suspension kits fitted - BIG CLUE - take it back to them, and not your main VW stealer!