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Offline tg1

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issues at work - where do i stand?
« on: 09 July 2013, 18:52 »
Had a little to-do with a chap at work, we usually have a bit of banter (im ok with banter) But today he crossed a line.

Was saying wholly inappropriate things about what he got up to with my 3 year old - obviously false, but dangerous ground to trod if you ask me.

Now i saw red  and put him in his place, with a few choice questions and an offer to settle it less civilly.

I'm a bit worried as this exchance was witnessed by about 6 staff, but quite likely in earshot of at least a couple of senior members of staff.

Where do i stand in offering to slap him, is the subject a mitigating circumstance, or have i made a big error in threatening him?

TBF i cant see what i done wrong - whats the legal implications

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Re: issues at work - where do i stand?
« Reply #1 on: 09 July 2013, 18:59 »
Mate I would deal with it in the same manner,you have a right especially such an horrific topic,you will probably get some kind of warning but if they heard what it was about then they will probably unofficialy understand,if not then I would be out the door anyway ,hope it goes ok

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Re: issues at work - where do i stand?
« Reply #2 on: 09 July 2013, 19:04 »
I'd like to think amongst adults what you did was expected and fair. But there could always be one jobsworth sh!t f**k who could try and throw the book at you. I'd forget about it...

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Re: issues at work - where do i stand?
« Reply #3 on: 09 July 2013, 19:23 »
forget about it.

worse comes to worse play the "we were having banter card" tell them that he made inappropriate comments about your daughter as banter and you made a joke about offering him out as banter.

or if it was blatently obvious you weren't joking and couldn't pull that tell them what he said and hope for the best.

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Re: issues at work - where do i stand?
« Reply #4 on: 09 July 2013, 19:45 »
Bring it to your line managers attention, admit you were in the wrong and deal with it before it becomes something massive.

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Re: issues at work - where do i stand?
« Reply #5 on: 09 July 2013, 19:47 »
Avoid any physical conflict, can result in instant sack for both parties :wink:

Was he making sexual remarks about your daughter?
Tell your boss what he said and that you will not be pursuing it this time.
Let your company talk to him about what he said, should shut him up and make the company take your side.
I don't have kids but I would not take anyone saying disgusting things about them, me and my mates say some serious stuff about our mums and other sensitive areas but there is a line and things you just don't touch.

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Re: issues at work - where do i stand?
« Reply #6 on: 09 July 2013, 20:00 »
Bring it to your line managers attention, admit you were in the wrong and deal with it before it becomes something massive.

+1 This.

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Re: issues at work - where do i stand?
« Reply #7 on: 09 July 2013, 20:02 »
Bring it to your line managers attention, admit you were in the wrong and deal with it before it becomes something massive.

+1 This.

Just to add when I say admit you were in the wrong I mean, regarding how you reacted and not that you took total offence to what was being said. You were right to challenge it if you found it offensive but the way it sounds like you did it was way off the mark. Some boundaries aren't for pushing and he clearly pushed yours.

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Re: issues at work - where do i stand?
« Reply #8 on: 09 July 2013, 20:31 »
I'll tell you something, normal people don't talk about young children in that context. I'd be keeping an eye on that one.


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