Hi Guys ! First off all name is Chris. All though i wanted to join this forum in happy mode and circumstances such as moding etc story is different and i have a huge problem

2 weeks ago i bought a lovely clean black ,box standard '96 gti 8v with 100k on the clock..all was good first week although sometimes car would start and cut off but always start second time and i was suspecting some flat spots around 4000rpm but that could just be me and it wasn't a big deal!
One day coming from the pub car refused to start altogether and red oil light flashes....
I have replaced fuel pump relays and resoldered those suspicious ecu relay no30 joints, checked every fuse ,disconnected ecu end checked conectors,swapped fuel pumps,checked for sparks all good still nothing

Weird thing is that when i disconnect the fuel pump and connect it to a direct 12v supply it works ,primes and supplies fuel to engine.Engine then starts no prob runs for minute and then cuts off when it uses all the fuel from the line...
When i check voltages coming into the plug that connects to the pump it shows 12v when ignition is on then it drops to 4V and again goes up to 12v when i crank it!!! But when i connect that same plug into the pump nothing happens pump is dead engine wont start ......what the &€@-,!!?.

is going on?

?? Someone PLEASE HELP?

Am I going mad!!!???.