I have exactly the same dilemma mate, I have 3k to spend on a Golf but cant decide on a tdi or 1.8T.
From my years of driving and modified cars I would say that it all depends on what your goals are. Any tdi will rape a petrol in the torque department and mpg but you have the drawback of it not sounding like a petrol and shorter rev range. You'd need to spend a lot on a petrol to get the same punch you get in a tdi.
The argument will be bhp vs torque. If top end power is what you need then its easier and cheaper to get it from a petrol, if you want B-road/trackday power then torque is what you need, and thats what I want.
I've had a few 300bhp cars, but on B-roads i've still had plenty of tdi's keeping up, bhp only shows its worth when you hit triple figures and need the power to push the car through the air so on straights/motorways etc this is where bhp beats torque.