cheers guys, well i had a look, the cables seem ok
first things first, it seems i need one of these...

if anyone is breaking a mk4 golf local in the west midlands, its 23mm wide and 28mm high, its the nut and bolt for the pos term clamp
ive also put the battery on a proper charge and topped it up again
im sure my starter motor has already been changed since ive had it, actually, im positive i have