cheers for all the input guys, only been on this forum for 5 minutes, all i've done is moan and i've had a ridiculous amount of help!
It is a credit to this forum!
A friend whose good with computers and has a soldering iron is currently in possession of my ECU.
May only be a temp fix?
A S/H one is only like £30 or so, and i know someone who may be able to help with the reprogramming of the keys so either way i am pretty relieved, although i now have an ignition coil thats been used once, but isn't needed, might as well chuck it on ebay!
Will get back to you all over the weekend with the results of the repaired ECU!