Right first things first Did you test pin 1 & 3, if you did and got 180 ohms and when you adjusted the Co pot screw values didn't change the resistance then I would say yeah its gone! The reading should have been about 500-600 Ohms on the meter!
You did check the temperature sender aswell right? Blue one should have read 180-230 ohms anything over 260 it needs replacing.
When its upto temperature pull the blue plug and see if the revs drop a bit this will let you know the ECU has gone into service mode. If it didn't it was proberly already in service mode

Your down pipes should branch off to two pipes the lambda would be located just on that junction. You can't miss it it would have a thick cable leading to the lambda.
I would be very worried if there was not at least the broken lambda still stuck in the pipe!
If you can't find one then someone has been playing silly buggers and change the down pipes and forgot a Lambda should be there

The only way I know is to drill a hole and
weld up a boss nut that has the same thread head as a lambda.
It should be universal fit, can't remember pitch sizes or nut size TBH.
By the way have fun gettting the old lambda off its still there!
Did you check the
Vac pipe from the ECU? It should be tight and
EXACTLY 1 meter long to the bay!
Other sensors to check whilst down there!
Knock sensor check cable for cracks and brittleness due to block heat
Throttle switches make sure they click!
Good luck you have a bit of work to do mate!

Jay