As I said in an earlier post the total weight difference is only around 60kg's plus 175lbs ft of torque in place of only around 140lbs of a 16V plus you don't need 4k revs on the clock before it starts to come on power.
And the point you chose to ignore was that the 60Kgs is carried up high, and forward of the drive line.
Regardless of how anyone dresses it up...you can't defy physics.
That's a 60Kg dissadvantage when it comes to getting the Mk3 to turn in...hence a VR6 will underster more than a similarly set up 16v.
So looking at a tweaked VR6 with 200 BHP / 175 lb-ft (Cams, Corrado manifold, Corrado TB, re-map, etc) with long gearing, against a tweaked 16v with 190BHP / 160 lb-ft (Cams, headwork, ported manifolds and TB, re-map etc) and shorter gearing...it's a pretty good match.
I know my ABF makes similar power at the wheels to most of my mates tweaked VR6s (about 150-155ATW) but with shorter gearing to offset the lesser torque, there's not much in it on the road...unless you drive like you are taking your Gran to Church and never go over 4000RPM.
...and it's fairly obvious which is the easier thrown round a corner in a hurry.