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General => General discussion => Topic started by: JC on 30 November 2011, 19:32
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On the way home tonight, about 1/2 a mile out of a village I came up behind a woman broken down in a VERY dangerous position. Pitch black, no street lights.
You could clearly see ( interior light was on ) that it was a woman with kids in the car.
she was just past one of those stupid traffic calming bollard things, so was causing a queue of traffic both ways.
yet NO ONE was stopping to help. she had been there 20 minutes already.
So I dumped the car in a layby just down the road, and walked back to see if I could help.
Turns out by the smells :sick: the clutch was fubar'd on her 11 plate ovloV estate, so after checking the burning smell wasnt anything worse, pushed it 300 odd yards down the road, then FINALLY managed to stop the traffic to cross the road into the layby.
At no point during this did anyone else offer to help, just sat behind in the queue.
Now is it just me that thinks this country has gone to sh1t and people are just to ignorant, or frightened to stop and help others out ?
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I like to help others out when theyre in situations like that, makes me feel good about myself. Although I agree that nobody else ever does it anymore and yes the country has gone to sh!t!
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Chuff you're old and have different values plus you just wanted to get traffic going to get home!
Would I stop yeah have done even when a drunken women flags you down thinking you are a cab and asks you to take her home! :grin:
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It's the law of deminishing responsibility. The more people there are watching, the less likely someone is to help.
Good on you though Chuff for helping.
I've stopped to help people embedded in hedgerows round where I've lived before.
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Someone could be getting a right kicking too and people will still watch and walk on.
Well done for helping her out.
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I would help if I could, I think its nowadays everyone is in a rush to do everything. Probably already running late and getting pissed off by the traffic building up
I strongly believe in The Golden Rule (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Golden_Rule)
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ive never came across someone in that position, but if i did ide proberbly stop and help her out :smiley:
agreed though, noone has any mannars now and everyone just looks out for them self and doesent give 2 sh*ts about anyone else
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Chuff you're old and have different values plus you just wanted to get traffic going to get home!
I don't think this has anything to do with it Jay, it's to do with the morals and values instilled in you from a young age. I have jumped out the car when a Ford Galaxy was broken down with a woman and her nippers broken down at a junction. Most people drove around her and left her to it.
Again as you Chuff, I was the only one who jumped out, told her what to do to get it moving (it was an auto) and then pushed her across the junction, back across the road and then in to a petrol garage. At least 30 odd cars must have gone past, but no one gave a damn.
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Right, i'm gonna stop beating around the bush on behalf of everyone.... 1-10? :evil: :laugh:
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whats option c?
is that 'c' as in wait and 'see' what happens??
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if she was childless and slutty looking then yep.
edit: must also be driving some type of VAG vehicle..
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I have not come across anyone in that situation yet but I would help,
I did however spot 2 women on the hard shoulder in the Rain looking under the Bonet of a Punto, I was going in the opposite direction & in my Transit recovery truck, Came off at the next junction & went back but when I got there a VOSA car was parked behind them
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I always get out an help people if they have broken down nothing than watching some poor bastard/b!tch trying to push their car on their own. I would hope someone would help me in the same position :undecided:
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i've only ever seen one person broke down and it was a lowered mk3 and it was pissin it down, i was gunna stop but there was a truck behind it wen i got there
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last person i stopped to help stole my work tools. bastard knew they were there cos id placed them on drivers seat, bastard :sad:
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I helped out a woman a few years ago on a bitterly cold New Year's Day. She was in a classic Mini and I had one too. I pulled over and diagnosed the problem within a couple of minutes - dirty points and distributor cap. Was able to clean it up enough for her so it ran smoothly (would hardly do a thing when I got there) so she was able to get home and told her that she needed to get it serviced more regularly.
She was a bit of a yummy mummy too (7/10) :wink: and I got a peck on the cheek and a big happy New Year hug. Was just one of those things that made me feel very good, and she didn't have to wait for the AA. :cool:
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Other than coming to the rescue to my sister and her kids in their broken down Mk4 a few years ago, I've not come across any Damsels in distress.
The closest was stopping a woman's car from being stolen.
Pulling into a space at Parc Tawe, Swansea, I noticed the car ,two spaces to the right, a chap bending down under the steering column. After getting out of my car I noticed the chap had vanished and the drivers door wasn't slightly ajar.
So..Hmmm. I waited for about five minutes, thinking they might come back, but then then it became obvious . I had a quick look inside and it seemed ok. Locked the car and went to the security lodge to report a potential theft. This was a Saturday. No-one there! I then spent about 40 minutes walking around all the car parks to find High Viz Noddy. Was he there? No. :rolleyes:
So, I left a note on the windscreen about what had happened, and that she should get in touch with security to view CCTV.
I got a very nice phone call from the female owner which showed me that "doing ones bit" should always be encouraged.
Warm and Fuzzy FTW!
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Chuff you're old and have different values plus you just wanted to get traffic going to get home!
I don't think this has anything to do with it Jay, it's to do with the morals and values instilled in you from a young age. I have jumped out the car when a Ford Galaxy was broken down with a woman and her nippers broken down at a junction. Most people drove around her and left her to it.
Again as you Chuff, I was the only one who jumped out, told her what to do to get it moving (it was an auto) and then pushed her across the junction, back across the road and then in to a petrol garage. At least 30 odd cars must have gone past, but no one gave a damn.
But thats my point Chuff like myself have been raised to respond right away, but most of us have experience where we have been helped at somepoint in our lives. The old pay it forward is a hard lesson when essentially the mentality of today is me? We proberly have seen our old mans do these things, but combine todays society materialistic values plus the lack of two parents or as I would put it role models out there, where and what can I say about new generations to come? Plus most people have a simplistic look "They will be okay she is proberly waiting to be towed or the police will come soon to sort it out" Ideal? No! Chuff is proberly probmatic and like you have said auto mode, still he got home quicker than if he waited like the rest of the sheep? Why does it have to be only a women with kids?
TBH most people are scared what might happen and what could happen and accounts for alot of misdirected logic in our society today! :lipsrsealed: You made me too deep, off I go to piss someone off!
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I have done the same in the past, stopped to see if I could help but no luck so gave her a lift to the local garage a mile or so down the road, it was dark and I did not like the idea of leaving her stranded.
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Scouts FTW!
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I did the same Chuff a while back - Metro broken down two young ish ladies sat in it people queing behind it.
I drove past as i had to be somewhere about 30min later on the way back it was still there!
I pushed it (on my own with other drivers watching! :angry:) into a layby out of the way as she had already called the AA. Took all of 5 minutes. She was very grateful indeed :smiley:
It just something I will always do!
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I have done the same in the past, stopped to see if I could help but no luck so gave her a lift to the local garage a mile or so down the road, it was dark and I did not like the idea of leaving her stranded.
But wouldn't do it now?
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to be fair jay, i got home 45 minutes LATER. as i stayed with her and the kids till the AA turned up. ( she was only 3/10 at best, in the dark :sick: )
and, i must have scared them sh1tless, 6ft3, 20 stone hairball dressed in all black appears at ya window holdin a 6 cell maglite :laugh: :grin: :smiley:
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to be fair jay, i got home 45 minutes LATER. as i stayed with her and the kids till the AA turned up. ( she was only 3/10 at best, in the dark :sick: )
and, i must have scared them sh1tless, 6ft3, 20 stone hairball dressed in all black appears at ya window holdin a 6 cell maglite :laugh: :grin: :smiley:
Ahh, but you were in a Vauxhall. Not exactly a gangsters first choice.
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to be fair jay, i got home 45 minutes LATER. as i stayed with her and the kids till the AA turned up. ( she was only 3/10 at best, in the dark :sick: )
and, i must have scared them sh1tless, 6ft3, 20 stone hairball dressed in all black appears at ya window holdin a 6 cell maglite :laugh: :grin: :smiley:
Ahh, but you were in a Vauxhall. Not exactly a gangsters first choice.
1, its a filthy unloved looking vauxhall
B, it was parked 300 yards down the road, i walked up the road towards them on the verge
iii, i refer you to my post about the ANPR marker for a wanted crim on the run from south wales on the car when I bought it
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to be fair jay, i got home 45 minutes LATER. as i stayed with her and the kids till the AA turned up. ( she was only 3/10 at best, in the dark :sick: )
and, i must have scared them sh1tless, 6ft3, 20 stone hairball dressed in all black appears at ya window holdin a 6 cell maglite :laugh: :grin: :smiley:
Haaa good on you fella!
Did you know I've stopped loads of times to help, but I've scared the crap out of them and they just told me to "go away the break down people are on there way" :lipsrsealed: At that point I exit as long as they have mobile phone and recovery job done!
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I always stop and see if there is anything i can do to help. But then Shetland is a bit different to the mainland, a closer community and people usually stop to help if something has happened.
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I always stop and see if there is anything i can do to help. But then Shetland is a bit different to the mainland, a closer community and people usually stop to help if something has happened.
Always good to help out the relatives.
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I always stop and see if there is anything i can do to help. But then Shetland is a bit different to the mainland, a closer community and people usually stop to help if something has happened.
Always good to help out the relatives.
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oops :embarassed: :grin:
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Mini van which would be worth a fortune now :cry:
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Mini van which would be worth a fortune now :cry:
Was it full of kids and single female you could sell rich? :grin:
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Mini van which would be worth a fortune now :cry:
Was it full of kids and single female you could sell rich? :grin:
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have done before, this 17 yo new driver was in a mini with a f'cked clutch in the road and couldn't steer it and push it on a high drop curb so I pulled up behind him and moved him off the road. got f'ckers hooting at us telling us to get it off the road - gee no kidding :rolleyes:
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have done before, this 17 yo new driver was in a mini with a f'cked clutch in the road and couldn't steer it and push it on a high drop curb so I pulled up behind him and moved him off the road. got f'ckers hooting at us telling us to get it off the road - gee no kidding :rolleyes:
You...17yr old man...Mini...
(http://i482.photobucket.com/albums/rr182/the_flying_elvi/4986448_gal.jpg)
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Now, now, calm down. Those days are behind me :laugh:
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Good job that there are people like us still around sir.....
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have helped an old women in a metro before, she said it wouldn't start and had no power, didn't think it was the immobilizer, popped the bonnet, the battery was disconnected :grin:
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Well done Chuff and yes I would have done the same, but probably have left my car in the way to hold up the cretins behind!
I am in Taunton tonight and earlier asked a stranger for directions and not only got what I needed but also the best way back to my Hotel.
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I am in Taunton tonight and earlier asked a stranger for directions and not only got what I needed but also the best way back to my Hotel.
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^ If that's not quote of the century, I'll eat my hat.
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What could make it even more worrying is I get the feeling this Hotel is a gay haunt! :shocked:
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I've helped a few people out, mostly in the snow in yorkshire last year armed with a shovel an tow roap, because it's the decent thing to do an yes if my gf an tiddler were stuck broken down in a dangerous place I'd hope someone would help them to a safer place too.
An you're right chuff, others like to watch you struggling with it and get pissed off!
BROKEN BRITAIN!
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What could make it even more worrying is I get the feeling this Hotel is a gay haunt! :shocked:
Seems to be a common thing. U in hotels near gay areas
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haven't read the thread but you did the right thing chuff, hopefully the UK won't go the same way as China and that awful youtube video
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Nice one. :)
I might irritate you lot but if your gf or wife or kids were broken down, I'd be the on stopped trying to help in any way possible.
Have to admit I will drive past if there's a couple of blokes in a van or whatever, I do feel a bit too nervous to do it. Have stopped for blokes in lanes etc tho and last weekend I pushed some lad in a Swift with the Micra to give him a bump start in Maidstone. :grin:
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There is deffo more of an 'Every man for himself' attitude these days, it seems particuarly bad in the south east, and don't even get me started on London.
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i stopped when passing a lady in a mondeo with hazzards on, in a lay bye on the dual carridgeway over summer. she was quite a looker, with two nippers in the back, and was absolutely clueless to the fact that cars need petrol to actually run. drove them all 20 mins down to the petrol station for a geri can and some fuel.
felt very good about myself, and her kids seemed to love my mk2 :cool:
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helped numerous times, though some times the people you try to help get pissed thinking who the hell are you etc
then there's the ones who are after robbing you by faking it, pull a knife or something and drive off with you standing there
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What could make it even more worrying is I get the feeling this Hotel is a gay haunt! :shocked:
Seems to be a common thing. U in hotels near gay areas
Was just the feeling I got as I only saw male staff!
Maybe the women of the world are now safe as I must be turning gay! :rolleyes:
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You're not staying in the Falcon are you?
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You're not staying in the Falcon are you?
Corner House
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id help anyone out if i can, me and my brother helped an old boy in a transit when it broke down we pushed it into a carpark for him, only thing that gets me is i do a lot of miles in my van and i see lots of people broke down, but why do i see buisness types in repmobiles sat on the hard shoulder with punctures? honestly i see it a lot and i think to myself you f**king lazy bastard! is it cause you dont want to get your hands dirty? wazzock. you cant tell me a man does not know how to change a tyre! they would rather call the aa and be a hazard on the shoulder than get it done themselves. just goes to show how detatched some people are from reality!!!
i know ive gone off topic here but it just pisses me off :laugh: :laugh:
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A lot of rep mobiles no longer have spare tyres to be fair, those tins of silly foam are pretty pointless!
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and, i must have scared them sh1tless, 6ft3, 20 stone hairball dressed in all black appears at ya window holdin a 6 cell maglite :laugh: :grin: :smiley:
Got that picture in my head now... :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Nightmares tonight :lipsrsealed: :grin: :grin: :wink:
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and, i must have scared them sh1tless, 6ft3, 20 stone hairball dressed in all black appears at ya window holdin a 6 cell maglite :laugh: :grin: :smiley:
Got that picture in my head now... :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Nightmares tonight :lipsrsealed: :grin: :grin: :wink:
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I know, me with hair is scary :grin:
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and, i must have scared them sh1tless, 6ft3, 20 stone hairball dressed in all black appears at ya window holdin a 6 cell maglite :laugh: :grin: :smiley:
Got that picture in my head now... :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Nightmares tonight :lipsrsealed: :grin: :grin: :wink:
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I know, me with hair is scary :grin:
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A lot of rep mobiles no longer have spare tyres to be fair, those tins of silly foam are pretty pointless!
well tbh i did not know that! that to me sounds like a step backwards tbh!!! :sad:
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A lot of rep mobiles no longer have spare tyres to be fair, those tins of silly foam are pretty pointless!
well tbh i did not know that! that to me sounds like a step backwards tbh!!! :sad:
not just rep mobiles. most new ******** come with the can and pump, a spare wheel is an OPTION :lipsrsealed:
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fook me thats disgusting tbh, im glad ive stuck with the mk2 :smiley:
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i used to allways stop to help someone but now it's more of a sometimes thing sometimes and to be honest the chances of me stopping for someone again are less each time.
ive stoped and changed the odd tyer for a bird once i even got a tyer put on the rim for some bird with a new mini. i've towed the odd car off a dgey bit of road even pulled some kiddy with a beetel up to the workshop and let him mend it in there.
but after last winter it's much less likely to happen. will certanly never give anyone a tow out of ditch, hedge or just up a hill in the snow ever again, and very doughtfull if id ever offer any of them a lift ether.
once you've had someone try claim of your insurance because you were trying to pull there car out a ditch when the tow rope snapped and the shackel put a rather big dent in there boot, i even made a massive detour to take the thingys to a B&B next time they can stay in the car and wait a few days for someone else to come by or try walking.
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i used to allways stop to help someone but now it's more of a sometimes thing sometimes and to be honest the chances of me stopping for someone again are less each time.
ive stoped and changed the odd tyer for a bird once i even got a tyer put on the rim for some bird with a new mini. i've towed the odd car off a dgey bit of road even pulled some kiddy with a beetel up to the workshop and let him mend it in there.
but after last winter it's much less likely to happen. will certanly never give anyone a tow out of ditch, hedge or just up a hill in the snow ever again, and very doughtfull if id ever offer any of them a lift ether.
once you've had someone try claim of your insurance because you were trying to pull there car out a ditch when the tow rope snapped and the shackel put a rather big dent in there boot, i even made a massive detour to take the thingys to a B&B next time they can stay in the car and wait a few days for someone else to come by or try walking.
^1 everyone for themself. :sad:
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i used to allways stop to help someone but now it's more of a sometimes thing sometimes and to be honest the chances of me stopping for someone again are less each time.
ive stoped and changed the odd tyer for a bird once i even got a tyer put on the rim for some bird with a new mini. i've towed the odd car off a dgey bit of road even pulled some kiddy with a beetel up to the workshop and let him mend it in there.
but after last winter it's much less likely to happen. will certanly never give anyone a tow out of ditch, hedge or just up a hill in the snow ever again, and very doughtfull if id ever offer any of them a lift ether.
once you've had someone try claim of your insurance because you were trying to pull there car out a ditch when the tow rope snapped and the shackel put a rather big dent in there boot, i even made a massive detour to take the thingys to a B&B next time they can stay in the car and wait a few days for someone else to come by or try walking.
Once bitten twice shy!
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i used to allways stop to help someone but now it's more of a sometimes thing sometimes and to be honest the chances of me stopping for someone again are less each time.
ive stoped and changed the odd tyer for a bird once i even got a tyer put on the rim for some bird with a new mini. i've towed the odd car off a dgey bit of road even pulled some kiddy with a beetel up to the workshop and let him mend it in there.
but after last winter it's much less likely to happen. will certanly never give anyone a tow out of ditch, hedge or just up a hill in the snow ever again, and very doughtfull if id ever offer any of them a lift ether.
once you've had someone try claim of your insurance because you were trying to pull there car out a ditch when the tow rope snapped and the shackel put a rather big dent in there boot, i even made a massive detour to take the thingys to a B&B next time they can stay in the car and wait a few days for someone else to come by or try walking.
So did it affect your insurance Danny?
I find it difficult to understand how we think I've always thought you did the right thing, even if they didn't or their insurance company made that decision for their client in any court it would have been thrown out on the bases of your intent! Which was a good one!
I still think it was the right decision, but saying that it explains why some would drive on and leave it to break down people with insurance to deal in situations like that?
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If they had kids I would stop and if they was fit I would definatly stop :grin:
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I would stop but also it depends where they are situated. If your on a busy dual carrageway and see a car at the side of the road with their hazzards on it wouldn't be very safe to just stop and help and you would have to be pretty eagle eyed to spot if it was a female with kids in the car. Alot of people, and quite rightly so, are reluctant to put their own safety in jepoardy on a busy road. All in all it depends on the scenario. I have stopped before regardless of gender or the presence of children, but not stopped for everyone I see.
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people are just too frightened to stop and help others out ?
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I think this is the reason why some people won't stop for anyone or in some cases anything !
I stopped to help a lad who was broken down on the bypass, couldn’t get his car going so I said I would be happy to give him a lift ! First thing he said when he got in the car was “don’t worry I’m not a serial killer†:laugh:, it was about a 15 minute drive to his house and he was really grateful and quite surprised that someone was prepared to give a complete stranger a lift.
When I did my first aid training we were told of a case where someone was walking along the street when she noticed an old fella on the floor so she rushed over to help. Turned out the chap was having a heart attack and had fallen in a way that caused his airway to become blocked, she duly helped out and the bloke did survive although with some minor brain damage resulting from a degree of oxygen starvation. The family of the man who was undoubtedly saved by the passer by then attempted to sue her claiming the damage he sustained was her fault, in light of this they suggested that if we ever thought we would react in the same way and attempt to help we should get ourselves insured. The claims made by the old mans family were quite rightly dismissed but the girl who stopped to help understandably said she would never help a stranger again !
They way I look at it is this, if it was me I would like to think someone would help so I try and practice what I preach !