i havent been working on my golf for a while due to money, but now i have some

i still have this problem where the lights work, spots come on and the main headlights, but not the pull back high beam. just wondering two things, firstly when you pull the stalk back is it meant to click and stay?

also there are relays(blue) in the engine bay, i bypassed these to get the spots and headlight to work. what are they as they dont look standard, and would this affect the problem above???
any help would be great, really wanna get it on the road as my 1.0l swift is killing me!!