went back today to pick up my order.. guess what.. they have the wrong ones!!! i had to run back around to work and actually take my car around and show them that i'm not lying about the connector on the car..
so after all that it, appears as though vw changed the connector on the '98 mk3s, the very very last ones, and all cars before have the round style... so etka defaults to the newest part.
finally got the right ones on order, and should have em early next week.
means no smoked lights + fog fitting again this weekend though

i'll post the right ETKA number up once i have em.
i know it ended in 123E, so it might be 6k0 953 123 E
( 6K0 953 123 B was the wrong one...)