Thanks guys for all your input and ideas today, it's made some interesting reading.
From reading the replies I'm probably expecting too much from the standard GTI set up without DCC, comfort and not feeling the corrugations on the 5 mile section of dual carriageway and then great handling when pushing on hard.
The car does ride well when I hit the odd pot hole that I not spotted ahead.
@Gnasher.............I think you're right it all about perception, my too hard might be too soft for a Ferrari driver.....good job I haven't got one

. I was running the tyre's all round at 38psi, I've dropped them to 35psi so I'll see how that is tomorrow and I'm doing an identical 240 mile run up and down the M6 to Tebay that I did Monday, I got 46 mpg which I thought was amazing....mostly cruising at gps 74-76 with the odd sprint.
@fredgroves.............Thanks for the link to aftermarket DCC systems. My GTI was new in April so it'll probably be too expensive to change, but at least if I find I can't live with it there are professional options out there and compared to the depreciation I've incurred buying new it's not too expensive.
@wattts .........Next step I think is to drive a DCC equipped GTI over the same horrid road to do a comparison. Might see if any of the local dealers near Chester have one.
@hertsman........"My R is on Pretoria 19" and in comfort, without passengers I would say its too comfortable, and bounces a little too much".............this sounds exactly like what I'm after

........need to test drive a DCC after your comments.
@ar899.........sounds like I don't want an A3 s/line
@hog hedge..............cheers for the heads up on the transport pucks..........jacked the two front wheels up this afternoon and checked, all clear so looks like the PDI was completed properly for those.
@sootchucker.........not good at all is it.
So a run tomorrow down the horrid corrugations before I hit the M6 now I've adjusted the tyre pressures and maybe next week I might see about a test drive of a DCC equipt one, if for no other reason than the experience. I know Chester didn't have one when I ordered last December........shame I didn't trawl the other dealers before I ordered to try a DCC car as an extra £800 ish isn't much extra. Never mind, there are always the aftermarket ones.......might be a Xmas present from me to me.

as I did buy the car as a keeper.