I find the R - in the metal - a far more handsome vehicle, there is a sense of class about it, which I find on the GTI's and GTD's - they have a confidence because they are not shouty, and that appeals. But I don't want every warm/hot hyper hatch to look the same and I think it's great each car maker can inject some personality and difference into these cars, what's right for one, won't be right for another and that's how it should be.
James
I agree, the Golf performance models do have an air of class about them but at the same time somehow they defy social class. I mean in the sense that all models of Golf share the same evolutionary design, with the performance models having the subtle design cues as to their intent and all important nods to past heritage, which subtly mark them out from the standard Golf family. You only have to look at the well known VW photo which shows all marks from 1 through to 7 lined up. That demonstrates the design ethos perfectly. I doubt many of the generations of shouty hot hatches would fare so well in a similar phtoshoot. It would be interesting to see their versions of such a photo though.

And because of the sublety of design it, the Golf, be it GTI/GTD/R really is an 'everyman' car. Equally at home across the class spectrum.
But if that's not your thing, there's the Civic Type R's of this world!