yep then you have OBD 1.5 (old protocol but OBD2 socket).
If you have an old laptop with an rs232 port (9 pin male d-sub socket) go for a RS232 cable (like VDA100 from ELV in germany, they ship abroad)
http://www.elv.de/elv-diagnose-adapter-fuer-obd-2-komplettbausatz.htmlotherwise there are some usb to kkl cables with usb on ebay, but i dont trust them (flaky comms).
for that reason i used a good usb to rs232 converter - Brainbox US-101, but this is pretty expensive (50€), you could try another usb to rs232 adapter with a genuine fdti chip.
one software is called vcds lite - the unregistered version will allow you to read fault codes but not much else (no live monitoring).
you may find some older vag com versions online but they are usually cracked and not stable (plus you're not paying someone who runs a small business - they are not a giant like microsoft)
licence for vcds lite costs 99 usd currently on ross-tech.com - which entitles you to discount if you end up buying a full vcds from them.
if you're planning on getting a newer VW at some point a hex+can from ross-tech (or their danish distributor) which supports all VWs from the mk3 to current models. It's a lot more costly though - all in about 3-400€
another software, that is free is wbh diag (the old version 0.86 anyway) but can do a little less than registered vcds (lite):
http://www.blafusel.de/obd/obd2_wbhdiag.html#6they also sell an interface on the same webpage that will work with current wbh diag software (via bluetooth comms):
https://www.obd2-shop.eu/product_info.php/cPath/36_39/products_id/302Personally I went for vcds lite option first (with the VLA100 adapter and brainbox) before I upgraded to full vcds.