So little update. Replaced the new starter, still same, bought brand new battery (yuasa 550cca) still same. Last night the car refused to start i had to get a jump start and car started. Checked for faults on vagcom no faults. Checked crank sensor and wires are bare, used some tape and taped them up, still same. So i checked relays and relay 30 is very hot after the car has been running. Mad4vws will bring some over later and i will check to see if it is that.