MH - have you tried having a conversation with regards the cancelled R and trying to get it for the same price as the one you've ordered ie. not paying for the extras? This wouldn't work with the additional cost of the DSG over the manual I wouldn't imagine, but you might get the rest chucked in for free? That's how I got mine early (yes I paid more than I was originally going to, but no where near as much as the extras added up to that I hadn't originally specced).
Also, why the no on the DSG front? It really is excellent. It's the first auto car I've ever owned as I love a manual, but its great.