dialma!!!!!!! or how ever u spell it!

[budgie]

right i split from th wife last sept, shes been hanging about with a male friend,, just a friend i do know that! BUT when i went to pick up my son on friday she says i beter tell you before ur son does the man had a right go at my son brought him to tears for saying he,s fat (which he is) Now ive settled down,calmed down put my nasty ways behind me, found someone who love me for who i am now, quiet let everything go ect, now do i take the old me back and go and teach this thingy a leason for having my son in tears when he is nothing more than a friend of hers or do i do it sencibly and just talk to him and warn him ect. fuming aint the word!!! ex said leave it i sorted it and txt him saying dont come back. in my world( ex world thats not sorting it!!)  i dont want to upset the new girlfriend she knows my past but still its my son and to be truely honst i thin she would understand,, what do u reckon, take the old me back for one day or just a good old plain warning? and he knows im coming!!!  or ive got money

[Rockey5uk2001]

tbh mate id be the bigger man and have a friendly chat, if he gets aggressive or a knob just walk away and leave him to be a idiot childish bully that he is,

Failure that just let your ex mrs deal with it

[X4MGS]

IMO,


& I've been in the same position... Talk to your son and explain that what he said may have been correct but it's not polite, and when you say things like that to some people they will get upset.


I would then have a quiet word with your ex m8 and tell him to back the feck off from your child and if he can't take the honest (but inpolite) opinion of a child he needs to grow up!


If he does it again you will then take the matter into your own hands and sort him out face to face... & just see how quickly he will back down!!

[barrym381]

if it was my son fatso would already have been knocked out  but i would also give my boy a boot in the arse if he was being cheeky for no reason 

[mcgee9t2]

the fact that your considering "do i go back to the old me" shows that its the "old" you and you know what the correct thing to do is

obviously you didnt want to be like this anymore and changed.

theres a reason youve changed... keep that change up.

just leave it. tell him he has no right to talk to your son like that and leave it be.
then have a word with your son, tell him that theres people out there who will say not very nice things and things they proberbly shouldnt.

wownt be the first time someone has said something not very nice to him im sure and wownt be the last either.

[jamie16v]

the fact that your considering "do i go back to the old me" shows that its the "old" you and you know what the correct thing to do is

obviously you didnt want to be like this anymore and changed.

theres a reason youve changed... keep that change up.

just leave it. tell him he has no right to talk to your son like that and leave it be.
then have a word with your son, tell him that theres people out there who will say not very nice things and things they proberbly shouldnt.

wownt be the first time someone has said something not very nice to him im sure and wownt be the last either.

very wise words!

[justalex81]

i'd get all the facts first. What exactly did this guy say to your son?

If all he did was shout at him then is the appropriate response to hit him? i think not. Trust me if this guy is fat, then your son telling him so probably hurt him enough.

your son was rude to someone and should still be reprimanded/punished regardless of what has happened.

[budgie]

i'd get all the facts first. What exactly did this guy say to your son?

If all he did was shout at him then is the appropriate response to hit him? i think not. Trust me if this guy is fat, then your son telling him so probably hurt him enough.

your son was rude to someone and should still be reprimanded/punished regardless of what has happened.

the fat man called someone else on the street fat and my son just pointed out to him that he,s fat too, which he didnt like and went nuts at him for.

[Ginge 35Edition]

IMO,


& I've been in the same position... Talk to your son and explain that what he said may have been correct but it's not polite, and when you say things like that to some people they will get upset.


I would then have a quiet word with your ex m8 and tell him to back the feck off from your child and if he can't take the honest (but inpolite) opinion of a child he needs to grow up!


If he does it again you will then take the matter into your own hands and sort him out face to face... & just see how quickly he will back down!!

+1 here mate, you don't want him making life unbearable for your lad either.

If he does it again then its game on and he might see a load of VeeDub nutters turning up too!

[Len]

Take son out for some exercise, swimming or cycling or a bit of footie.

Ex says she has dealt with it so let it go.

If he appears again, well let out the old you!