Cancer...

[J_V_Dub]

My sister was diagnosed with cancer last week. I spoke to my mother but she was too distressed to properly relay any information so I don't know what type it is etc. The problem is I don't really talk to my sister and I'm pretty much emotionally distant but I think I should call her, but what on earth do I say?

[stealthwolf]

Cancer can be scary. As you say, not knowing about prognosis can be difficult. Some are inoperable, some can and can't be treated.

Cancer.gov usually has some good info for you to read. I'd get your mum to read it to

http://www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/coping/familyfriends

[grantw]

my mother currently has breast cancer has had the operation and starts her radiotherapy treatment next month.
My advice to you would beto talk to your sister,it,s the only way you,ll find out what you can do to help your sister and mother at this time,hope things go well Dude

[Bellend]

My mum had/has it. It's a horrible experience but she's okay now. The most horrible thing about it is that she's convinced she is going to die soon still. The doctors etc say no way but she's adament. She's in the medical field and I think that makes it far worse.

To be honest with you, everyone says "if there is anything I can do to help" but you need to do it. Things like washing, ironing, cleaning etc will be impossible as she will be shattered. Luckily I have 5 brothers and sisters and my nan and grandad live next door so there was a lot of help on hand. Organisation is key.

[tweed]

Don't give it you ok bullsh!t!

Phone her and ask to meet up, go for lunch. Do what ever.

I lost someone to cancer just before Xmas last year. Didn't see them much until we found out she had 2 months to live. Them last two months I did loads of things with her. just try and enjoy yourselfs.

Not saying your sister will die but what if she is!

I know I couldn't live with my self if I didn't make the effort to go see my sister that has cancer. Think how she feels!

Give her some support, let her know your there for her and ask to meet up.

Pick up the phone

[Gavv8]

^This, life is a fragile thing and so many people look back with regrets about things they could/should have said and done.

[VW BUSH]

Just talk to her, come straight out with it and let it go where it needs to go.
I got the all clear after tests in April, the three preceding months taught me a lot about life, myself, and relationships.
Good luck my thoughts are with you

[Len]

Kinda same for me with my Sister, we hardly speak and she has hopefully just come through Breast Cancer.
So there is hope.
I still stay in the background and keep in touch through my Dad, but she knows I am thinking of her.

[Sam]

I would just ring her and be as blunt as possible to break the ice...  'Right, what's exactly wrong with you and what can I do to help?' and then naturally progress from there