Update - just in case anyone can learn something!
So, took the bastard apart after buying an engine support beam and took the box to a gearbox specialist. The cheapest I could find was this model:
http://www.rapidonline.com/1/1/19434-engine-support-beam-500kg-capacity-double-support.html (but not at this price, got it for £60 or so). It's beefy but is missing various pieces before you can use it - chocks for the hinges in particular (I'm using old allen keys), and the chains are nowhere near long enough to fit around the engine. I have no idea how they expect you to use it, but whatever. Used a climbing sling and a carabiner. Wouldn't recommend this make of engine support beam.
Turns out I could have probably fixed the box myself if only I'd taken it apart further! The gearbox guy said that some balljoint had come loose inside the mechanism and had dropped onto the reverse gear, jamming the mechanism, which explains why the selector could no longer reach reverse and all the other gears were fine. I'll know more about it tomorrow when I pick it up.
I mentioned that the clutch bite point had changed after I fiddled with it. I'm now pretty sure that that was because I had manually disengaged the clutch as far as possible (with the use of a large piece of wood as a prop) with the self-adjusting cable still attached, which is not meant to be fully extended or compressed, as it shags the self-adjustment mechanism. So that needs replacing now.
Also, for future reference to anyone attempting gearbox removal (at least on the 020K transmission), you don't need to remove the front crossmember in order to extract the gearbox as Haynes suggests, and you don't need to undo the driveshaft retaining nuts to disconnect the driveshafts, which Haynes also implies. And for disconnecting the driveshafts, the driver's side is an unholy b!tch to undo as access is exceptionally limited. It's just possible if you remove the airfilter, which Haynes again neglects to mention.
Had a total blast taking it apart! Looking forward to getting it back together soon, maybe a lick of paint and some new bits for the front bumper that have mysteriously been knocked off... should probably also wipe the mould off the steering wheel, ugh!