ok bit of an update
Noticed it doesn't do it on 1st gear ever if you drive it right up to 5000rpm, weird.
when i start the car im noticing the revs don't go over 1000rpm when cold and sometimes its struggling to stay idle ,should it not rev a bit higher on cold start

also noticed that there is a bit of popping coming from the exhaust when its blipped,could it be over fuelling? what would cause this ?
can i also state that this noise is 100% only under load not when revved parked up, and is definitely engine associated