update

....took off the coilover and it looked fine.....looked again..... the top spring plate that should hold the damper...had a bigger hole than is should hence the rod going through it....(installed wrong i think

not by me tho think they missed out a washer!) steel washed added where it should have been and its fine again! need to check the other side tho
Huge thanks to everyone who input into helping your time is appriciated !Have an ace new year guys!
