I get what you were saying..... and what i was sayiing was that it wouldn't be that expensive to get from 190-210+.
I think it is though...on a 2.8 VR6, getting from the point you will be at with the basics, 2.9 TB/manifold, modified airbox & filter and re-chip (190+) to 210+ will involve cams and headwork at the very least.
Fitting cams - with gaskets, new lifters (preferably lightweight ones if you are revving higher), preferably lightweight retainers (Ti if possible), a light flywheel and ahead capable of actually flowing the air the cams can give you...will cost.
Hell, you can spend £1500 on the head alone.
You know that a VR6 (AAA or ABV) has the same size TB butterfly as an ABF right?
So on a VR6, you are trying to feed a 2.8 engine with a TB that's holding a 2.0 back at 200ish BHP...so how's it going to fare on a 2.8/2.9?
You need to start paying close attention to getting air into a VR6 at over 200 BHP...and the standard cams/head don't cut it, if you stick NA.
Go FI, and you don't have the same concerns...but do get new ones around heat and keeping the head gasket sealing.
You say that to get over 200bhp you could go with ITB's and m-squirt and that would cost £1000-1500, well if i had spent the same amount on my 190bhp vr then im sure i could have broken the 210bhp barrier. Will never get the chance now to find out thoughsince i no longer have my vr.
You could...if you bought a new set of Jenveys, and a pre-built MS.
Or you can build the MS yourself for £100, make a plug and play loom with an old ECU and some wire (say £50) and fit bike ITBs on a custom manifold for £200-300.
Around £500 fitted and running, plus Dyno time to map it all up.
Got another question for you though Ess three, since doing all that work on your valver have you ever had it up against a civic type r..? love the idea of an ABF showing a v-tec a clean pair of heels! 
I can give them a fright, depending on the shape of CTR.
The Mk3 isn't light...then again, neither is the CTR...and they are low-ish geared too.
I can't say if i'd be quicker or not in all cases...as I've bot paid too much attention.
How does a CTR do against a Mk1 S3/TT?
I can pull away from then...out accelerate, out-handle and out-brake them (standard).
So many factors to consider though...driver skill being the biggest.
At a guess, A JDM EK9 type, no chance.
The van looking things that came later, hold it's own.
The current heavier ones, probably keep them behind.
Although much will be down to my gearing being lower.