Hi all,
well an entire day of head scratching, soldering and relay bashing was had today! with an almost successful ending.
so far the list of problems was:
a green plug to the front indicator, now cleaned up and working fine!
the horn plug was wired directly to earth rather than the switched earth,
when i refitted the light stalk, one of the spade conectors bent to the side instead of going in, this caused all manner of odd issues!
after fixing that one the dim dip resistor really started to mess things up (i'd had been taking it in and out a few times, before fixing the stalk it actually made it work better with it on!)
also now i have stripped back all the relays and replaced with six 4 pole relays and now just have them to do dip, main and fogs seperately all was working fine for the test. then took the loom back out of the car, finished up the soldering and loom wrapping. It's now back in the car, but only the drivers side has decided to work, but when i wiggled the relays the passenger side flashed up so im pretty sure its all ok i just have to find the dodgy connection before sinking them in resin tomorrow!
I had enough by this point and while it was still sunny and now she was taxed i took her out for her first propper drive, did about 20 miles and she behaved brilliantly, very smooth power delivery and loads of torgue!

im pretty sure ill have her all sorted tomorrow, i'll keep you posted!
cheers