Agreed, you should not leave the box in D for long periods when at rest and as it happens I always shift to N at traffic lights etc. I am very aware that the DSG box is not the same as a manual or torque converter type auto box.
When it comes to a manual box, would you consider the following points true:
When the clutch pedal is fully down..............the clutch is fully disengaged.
When the clutch pedal is fully up...............the clutch is fully engaged
When the clutch pedal is just starting to bite (THE BITE POINT)...............the clutch is AS NEAR AS DAMIT DISENGAGED!
Are you perhaps confusing the clutch with the actual engagement of the gear:
It is true that when in D, 2nd gear is engaged (1st gear when in S) and putting your foot on the brake at rest will not disengage the gear. However, a clutch is a clutch whether for a manual box or a DSG (albeit oil bath for the DSG which should reduce wear of the plates) and I repeat and maintain my opinion that:
When at rest in D with your foot on the brake the CLUTCH is barely biting and is AS NEAR AS DAMIT DISENGAGED!