Welcome to the forum Steph

Nothing like making a few changes to a new car eh!
I agree with all that TC has already said and just to add a few more details
Cruise costs £150 through the dealer network. If you are any good with fitting parts yourself this can be bought for less and activated by VAGCOM (VAGCOM is a PC based system with a special lead that guys throughout the country use to change settings in their cars)
There are a few options for iPOD connections, but I would avoid having the VW version retro-fitted as it is pants!
I'm guessing that the hole in your bumper is the removable panel that covers the tow eye fitting?!?

in which case the VW dealership will supply for a nominally small price.
Quite a few companies sell the smoked rear lights Awesome gti sell original R32 rear clusters at £165 +VAT.
Regarding the GTI grill. This can be bought off fleabay and there are also online companies like oemplus who sell them (American based).
Hope this helps.
