On the VW loom brown/red from memory is 'key in ignition' live on a MK3, so that needs to go to the red wire on the stereo, and the red wire from the VW loom is permanent live and needs to go to the yellow wire on the stereo.
Or the other way round, it depends what the yellow & red wires do on your stereo. I'm 80% sure yellow = live & red = ign live on a std stereo ISO connector...
Invest in a multimeter, can get em for less than £5 from ebay!