Ash tray lid .. open the ashtray, pull out the bottom liner, there is a screw underneath. Undo that and the whole ashtray will come free, be careful not to snag the wires for the cigar lighter as you pull it out, just unclip it. The lid itself is a complete arse to remove, you can see how it's attached from underneath once the whole tray is out but it's still very tight, you have to slide it off.
As for the door pull inserts, can't really help you there im afraid as i bought the whole brushed ali kit which comes with a complete new door pull, not just the insert. However i'm sure with a bit of encouragement you can tease the insert out of the handle if you remove the whole thing first.
Just out of curiousity, what are you doing about the walnut gear shifter?