It sounds to me like you are missing the central bit of the leccy mirror loom, either that or you are colour blind

There should be 1 brown, 1 green/white and one yellow/black. Brown wires should be earthed, green/white connects to the heated rear screen output wire and black/yellow goes to an ignition live source. You may find a spare plug behind the fusebox with a green white wire, but this wasn't present on my pre-90 spec Driver or post 90 GTI, however it was on a LHD Corrado I pinched the loom from.
The leccy windows should have a relay and thermal fuse (or a normal 30amp fuse if you cant get a thermal one) on a holder clipped above the fusebox, plenty of VWs in the scrappy have these so you have no excuse not to go and grab one

Exact OEM wiring locations on a post 90 MK2 if you want to be extra anal (like me

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Leccy mirrors:
blk/yel - D/11 (this means plug D, pin 11)
grn/wht - K/12
brn - earth 'claw'
Leccy windows:
Relay pin 86 - blk/yel - D/9
Relay pin 30 - red - Fuse - red - Y/2
Relay pin 85 - brn - earth 'claw'
Relay pin 87 - blk red - To switches
Leccy seats:
Red - Y/1
brn - Earth 'claw'
And heres a pic of the back of the fusebox to help you locate the plugs:
http://www.bentleypublishers.com/tech/vw/bentley.vw.fuse.panel.rear.1989-1997.htm