Took it to the garage this morning, told em what was wrong and where i the water was coming from. They said it was most likely a crack in the thermostat housing, something quite common as the plastic warps under the heat and pressure. Just a bit of a fiddly job because of the VR6 engine but if i can get the part it will be about 2 hours labour charge. Probably looking around about 100 quid. not to bad to be honest, and i'm hoping that will solve the problem.
Have noticed that if i keep my revs low i don't really get a leak at all, done about 60 miles this morning, a mixture of town and motorway driving and no leak that i can see, water level hasn't really dropped either. just gotta keep an eye on it until I can get the problem fixed.