And lastly what negatives are there from running this engine with a 1.6 manifold? i guess there will be a negative effect in performance but would it also have a knock on effect with gaskets etc ?
You're strangling it.
Any custom exhaust takes you away from 'default servicing' but with a Golf engine in a T25, as far as most garages are concerned you're a million miles away from standard anyway.
If you change to GTI manifold and downpipe, you can keep to GTI manifold gaskets and GTI downpipe gasket, then if you have a sleeve joint to the silencer you shouldn't have any servicing issues, if it's in a garage.
The actual exhaust pipe (all of about 2-3' of it) HAS to be custom. A T25 TD silencer will do on the end of your custom downpipe. This will fit on the standard mounts.