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General => General discussion => Topic started by: Ant1981 on 27 October 2011, 18:08
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And maybe your reasons why?
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Simpler, yes.
More rewarding, no. :smiley:
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Simpler, yes.
More rewarding, no. :smiley:
What makes you think it isn't more rewarding?
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Simpler, yes.
More rewarding, no. :smiley:
What makes you think it isn't more rewarding?
Well it depends what you want out of life.
I'm not one for earning/having loads of cash I'm more of a friends/family guy. So IMO, it's more rewarding. Plenty of mates prefer the single lifestyle, clubbing loads of girls etc lifestyle and working a lot and earning loads.
Fair play to them. :smiley:
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I'm the complete opposite now I have the kids, not necessarily cos of the missus although I am starting to appreciate her more after the sh!t year we've had due to health reasons on her part.
It's nice to have someone to share stuff with and I don't think I'd be the person I am today or have the things I have if I wasn't with her; I'd probably be laying in a gutter somewhere in a narcotic fuelled state...
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Far simpler.....
More rewarding?? Well I haven't being to an std clinic since i met her so I guess that's a reward?
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It is nice being with someone. But I guess I'm reevaluating things since splitting with my girl. It wasn't working, but I do miss her like mad.
Times like this make me think, isn't life simple when you're used to being single? Nothing to do with being able to pull just anyone, just no complications, no what ifs and the way things are when it goes wrong.
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Sorry to hear mate. Had you been with her long?
Me and my gf are starting to have a few more issues not sure how much longer we will last :undecided: :embarassed:
Just gunna keep going until the inevitable happens :sad:
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Is it heck!
If I was single I'd have to think about things like how food was going to appear on the table (go shopping and then do cooking, wtf?), more housework to do, no one to do DIY or fix the car for me. No one to walk to dog when I don't want to. No one to care for me when I'm ill.
AND I'd have to like, try and look nice or some sh!t to find some other bloke who'd more than likely turn out to be a complete kn0b...
No thanks single = complete and utter suck imo
I wonder if anyone who thinks that single is better has just not met ''the one'' yet because when it properly works it makes life so much easier because you help each other with everything and really there shouldn't be any conflicts or anything to create hassle or problems.
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Nah. It's awesome coming home to a fit bird every night who earns 6x more than I do. :evil:
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Prefer having someone, food cooked and on the table as soon as you walk through the door, no chasing after girls, no need to keep yourself in order and can let yourself go a bit (gained 3 stone since our wedding :grin: ) and sex on tap (until the kids come along) :laugh:
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Im scared to respond to this in fear of her seeing... :lipsrsealed:
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Definately has its pros and cons which for me cancel each other out it some respect. I'm single just now and have been for a while. I do enjoy time to myself but also would enjoy the company of the right person. I don't play the field so to speak, nor do i go out drinking so for me its hard to find someone who fits the mould. Had a lot of grief in the past mainly due to not being with the right person and to be honest I am happy to be single until I find that right girl. Being stressed out due to bad relationships is not good for your mental or physical health. There is a few out there which i could be probably hook up with but, in my opinion, are all wired to the moon and would no doubt drive me doolally and i'm not the type to use people for just an intimate encounter. I'm 30 now and been there done that and not interested.
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I'm too old to be single :laugh:
That said, I have only been married a year and I think both me & Mrs B would be lost without the other. We have been together nearly 10 years and work very well as a team. We know what the other is thinking (usually rude or childish humour) yet go off and do our own things so we're not in each other's pockets.
I wouldn't want to be single now.
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Im scared to respond to this in fear of her seeing... :lipsrsealed:
same here :grin:
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it was simple but better since met mrs shes a proper gti :smiley:
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Life is more simpler when your single.
But my fiancee has kept me on the straight and narrow since I met her all those years ago! Also she keeps me (realtively) organised as I'm exceptionally laid back (too laid back infact) so she reminds me to do things like pay the bills etc.
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Sorry to hear mate. Had you been with her long?
Me and my gf are starting to have a few more issues not sure how much longer we will last :undecided: :embarassed:
Just gunna keep going until the inevitable happens :sad:
Only got with her this year, but she meant more to me than I first realised.
Talk to your girl, sort things out before its too late J. Don't make the mistake I did.
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both have there ups and downs.
personally its a hard choise, some people prefer being in a relationship, some dont. ide prefer to be in a relationship just because of the kinda person i am, i like having someone to talk to about anything and someone i can spend the money and make happy.
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sex on tap (until the kids come along) :laugh:
So true :cry:
yet go off and do our own things so we're not in each other's pockets.
You've hit the nail on the head there mate, I think that is the main reason we've been together for 15 years now (jeez is it really that long?!)
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yet go off and do our own things so we're not in each other's pockets.
You've hit the nail on the head there mate, I think that is the main reason we've been together for 15 years now (jeez is it really that long?!)
+1, me and my exgf were reall close, but if we went out on nights out togeather we would only spend about 30% of the time togeather (her best mates are really good mates with me and vice versa and her mates know my mates so it ended up with every one being mates) and we would always make time for each other but neither of us was botherd if the other wanted to go out with mates instead :smiley: think that was the reason our relationship was so good
forums getting all soppy today :cry: :grin:
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forums getting all soppy today :cry: :grin:
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i should of followed my mate's Gran's advice-see a brass once a fortnight to get rid of yer dirty water and stay single!! :grin:
in which case,i would'nt be having to sell my house to pay the ex's debts off and id have more money to spend on the golf-in fact,id probably have a R32 sat outside instead of a old 's' reg GTi with moon mileage on the clocks :shocked:
not that im bitter or nothing you understand :angry:
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Was due to get married next year.. Went out to Oman last Jan and fell in love with someone else.. Realised that the house I had, the dog, the partner.. I was living a lie getting married..
When I got home we argued a lot, had two options.. See it out or split up.. I knew things weren't right and called it a day..
I am now with a girl who I believe is the one, I didn't used to believe it.. I didn't ever think you could just click with one person.. But me and Nikki just seem to fit.
I can do everything a single man can do, I have a house, a decent car.. Just bought a motorbike, I still go out on the piss with the lads, I can go on holidays with the lads if i want.. Yet aslong as I strike that balance with her, so I treat her how she deserves, then it will work.
Being in the military means you spend a lot of time apart, my ex really started to struggle with me coming to Afghanistan, to the point where she would break down on the phone on my last tour. I knew from this moment that it wasn't going to work. As bad as this sounds, the military is my life.. I love what it brings to me..I love what I have become because of it..
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I can do everything a single man can do, I have a house, a decent car.. I still go out on the piss with the lads, I can go on holidays with the lads if i want.. Yet aslong as I strike that balance with her, so I treat her how she deserves, then it will work.
Same for me and been married nearly 40 years!
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Its good to be single but deep down I always wanted to meet a decent girl and not the usual scratter I would pull when i was on the lash with my mates. I didnt really have any respect for women when I was out & single, Then I met my gf & I knew I wanted to be with her. she was differnt and now live together everything is great until we attempt flat pack, then we wana stab each other with flat headed screwdriver. :grin:
You have to have a balance, mates/gf/work etc. Danielle has made me a happy guy and looked after me well! :cool:
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I can do everything a single man can do, I have a house, a decent car.. I still go out on the piss with the lads, I can go on holidays with the lads if i want.. Yet aslong as I strike that balance with her, so I treat her how she deserves, then it will work.
Same for me and been married nearly 40 years!
I want for nothing.. Someone else pays my rent, I have a bunch of mates of whom I can be anywhere in the UK and be able to go on the piss, I have a beautiful missus who appreciates my job because she too is in the military.. I go back to Swansea to see my friends and have no quibble from her because she appreciates being away from friends herself..
I think that theres so much other stuff you have to do as a single person, sometimes creating a character that you can't sustain.. The party animal.. The fashion concious... The guy whos forever playing with his car...
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You dont have a house then!
I own mine! :wink:
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You dont have a house then!
I own mine! :wink:
When i see Sgts and Flight Sgts who have done 20 years and have no end product for their money then I realise that yes I do have a house.. If ever the tenant pulls out I have the funds to pay for the house each month..
The house is in my name, the mortgage is paid by me.. I think I can say its mine...
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if we went out on nights out togeather we would only spend about 30% of the time togeather (her best mates are really good mates with me and vice versa and her mates know my mates so it ended up with every one being mates) and we would always make time for each other but neither of us was botherd if the other wanted to go out with mates instead :smiley: think that was the reason our relationship was so good
That's the way it should be. Mine would go mad if she didn't get 100% attention.
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im 50/50, i have a house, 3 cars, 2 kids and a cat, a 'stable' job, and a gf that is there for me, cooks, cleans, looks after the kids and me, but im broke, skint, no money to my name that i can say, this is my money to do with what i want, and she can be a right annoying tw*t sometimes, but after an few minutes, our arguments blow over and it leads to angry sex :rolleyes:
before i got with her, i had money, i had a better job and was earning more a week than what i could spend of it, takeaways, meals, clubbing, new clothes, spent loads on my cars, always with mates getting up to mischeif, chilling down the pub with my mates after football, would go and play football every weekend, life was free, i was living my teenage yrs into my twenties, although at this point, i was with the ex and she was a bit psycho
then a had a bit of a breakdown, couldnt cope anymore, things were getting to me, felt lonely, i had no stability, and i werent going to get that with he psycho ex, i dont have time for breakdowns now, my mind is too preoccupied, everytime i get a bit low, i think of what i have and give my 4 month old son a big hug, ive still got good mates around me, just not as many as i used to have
in short, to awnser the question, yes life is simple when single, but its a lonely unloved road
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if we went out on nights out togeather we would only spend about 30% of the time togeather (her best mates are really good mates with me and vice versa and her mates know my mates so it ended up with every one being mates) and we would always make time for each other but neither of us was botherd if the other wanted to go out with mates instead :smiley: think that was the reason our relationship was so good
That's the way it should be. Mine would go mad if she didn't get 100% attention.
been in relationships like that before, way better if youse both realise you have a life outside of each other :)
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Single - Go out with mates, hook up with a few girls (could be fit, could be fat), maybe take one of them home, have some sex, awkward in the morning/late night, she goes, you're all alone again, masturbation.
Relationship (a good one) - Go out with mates, see her for part of the night, piss about with mates doing stupid boy things, have a dance with someone and have some laughs, meet your girlfriend, go home, have sex, sit there still naked while eating some sh!t she just made you, watch a bit of late night tv, fall asleep, morning sex, she makes you breakfast, work, get home, more sex.
Some things just can't be had with being single. Loved it when I was, but also loved relationship, and love the one I'm currently in, couldn't ask for a better girlfriend really (I mean seriously, what girlfriend preorders BF3 to your house rather than hers for an early (2 month) birthday present (getting some gaming headphones for my actual birthday too!).
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Pics or GTFO
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What is it with lovebites?! I have never understood the purpose?! Am I missing something? :huh:
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Lovebite?
What are you, 13?
Get out!
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Slag tags? :rolleyes:
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Nails and biting esp on your shoulder!!! The BEST!
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Nails and biting esp on your shoulder!!! The BEST!
hate that, just feels like someones ticking me :grin:
and its very awkward when your sat with mam and dad and gf and they ask whats all the scratches on your arm for :grin:
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Ugh, how boring are sundays when you're recently single. All you can think of is what you'd be doing if still together.
Arguing probably? :huh:
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Ugh, how boring are sundays when you're recently single. All you can think of is what you'd be doing if still together.
Arguing probably? :huh:
stay in bed half the day when your with them, get stuff done when your not. tough choice
i do that anyway with or with out a gf :D
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stay in bed half the day when your with them, get stuff done when your not. tough choice
You know what, when I'm with a girl, I start to think that things are building up around me, jobs on the car, other things to do, hobbies not being done. Sometimes it can make me feel a bit suffocated. But then on the flip side, you miss her when she's gone.
So sure, I've got all the time I like now to piss about with the car, play computer games....
....do the things she hated me doing, watch air crash investigation which she hated, have the car radio volume on an odd number which she hated, so I purposely do that now :wink:
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weekdays are for work
weekends are for working on the car
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More proof, that it's better to be single.
thingys.
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Nails and biting esp on your shoulder!!! The BEST!
Love this!!
I never used to do relationships, till i met chloe , when i 1st got with her i new she was the one, and she still is!!
We have a house together ( but i pay for it all) i have a great job, no debts and more inportantly NO REGRETS ! Iv never been one to think , yeah but what if??
We argue over stupid sh!t, like me being lazy etc but hey i do hard graft i wana get home from work , shower, bit ov tv and net, sex then sleep!!
I plan to spend the rest of my life with chloe!
We both have the same friends and were all really close!
I have a friend who was in a long relationahip , lost all his mates, split and wanted us all back , never happend, now hes with some one elce who iss a compleet b!tch , we see him n dont invite her haha!!
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Gotta get the balance right IMO.
Going out with the lads soon and I'll always join in with all my friends etc (girls and boys and lucky my GF is like now best mates with my best friend who's also a girl) and then devote some of the night to her etc.
Going good for 6 months now. :smiley:
Oh and I'm going to Canterbury for a lash up with just the lads in November. :cool:
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It'll all end soon.
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have the car radio volume on an odd number which she hated, so I purposely do that now :wink:
WTF was she mental :grin:
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have the car radio volume on an odd number which she hated, so I purposely do that now :wink:
WTF was she mental :grin:
It turns out she is.
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More proof, that it's better to be single.
thingys.
It'll all end soon.
have the car radio volume on an odd number which she hated, so I purposely do that now :wink:
WTF was she mental :grin:
It turns out she is.
Enlighten us...
Sounds like a proper mental b!tch though.. :grin:
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Its def easier being single but then you miss having a missus jiggy jiggy going out etc oh and I hate sleeping on my own so the benefits def outway the negatives :grin:
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Nope. My missus makes me tea & has dinner ready for when I get back from work. She's a right house wife. Be lost without her.
House wouldn't be clean anyway.. XD
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yet go off and do our own things so we're not in each other's pockets.
I wish I had this.
I did write a massive post but it just made me realise how much my relationship is up the poop hole.
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Chelsea doesn't like me having the stereo on an odd number either...f**king mental. :grin:
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You know what, when I'm with a girl, I start to think that things are building up around me, jobs on the car, other things to do, hobbies not being done. Sometimes it can make me feel a bit suffocated. But then on the flip side, you miss her when she's gone.
Without reading 6 odd pages nail on the head there really. I guess I'm lucky that my gf doesn't mind my car hobby too much - rolls her eyes etc but nothing heavy, spend what I want etc and she knows what it means to me as I was a car nut before I was with her. Always says she prefers me to be into cars than other activities like footy etc. Everybody should have a hobby separate from their partner IMO, not healthy to do EVERYTHING together.
Having said all that I'd probably chuck it all in for her (hope she doesn't read this :lipsrsealed:). Pro's and cons to single life and being in a relationship - get the best out of whichever situation you're in and you're laughing :wink: