I agree with Lewy, go for a rado VR6.
I changed from my 16v to a rado VR6 and I'm loving it. It is more refined and definately a lot more relaxing drive... you should convince ur bro to give you a go

The VR roar will have you hooked.
In defense of the Golf, I still love them because they are so much fun to drive, you can fling at anything.
- Ross