You did take off the alloy bracket that goes from the bell-housing to the gearbox mount didn't you?
I didn't realise it came off and spent a long frustrating time until I noticed it could be removed (three bolts I think, from the engine side of the bell housing).
I too was going to scrap the car until I finally got the gearbox out.
The other big hurdle is when you manage to line up the splines and get it back on. That too is a time to celebrate!
Good luck.
h8v.