I just feel it has taken so much away from the day to day driving and even handling. dont feel comfortable going into corners and cant judge eaxctly when I should be putting the power on... let alone the dsg knowing what it should be doing. I know that the only solution to this is to use the paddles , but they arnt where they should be when the wheel is turned.
I understand what you say about cornering....basically in D mode you will not be in the right gear when pressing on through corners on A Roads and B roads and you really have to use the paddles (or stick) in manual mode to maintain the revs and get the same feel as a manual car.
In the R32, in D mode, it will try and enter corners in 6th when you really need 3rd or 4th. I therfeore never ever use D or S mode on these types of roads anymore. If you practice with the paddles (and the stick when the paddles are difficult to use on tight turns) in M mode you will start to enjoy the car a lot more 
Try the road from Slaid Hill to East Keswick as a practice 
keep in 3rd or 4th all the way using the paddles.
I live round the corner from slaid hill and regularily use the little drive to east keswick... about 3x a week just for a little blast
There is a nice turn off behind Leeds Golf course too
I know what you mean about cornering and the gear the dsg selects... when you try to get it to shift down with the accelerator it just wants to drop into second, sound like its dropped a bomb and go!! Scares the sh1t out of anyone stood around
The paddles are just too small so i can see why a few have fitted the extended cf ones. might try playing with the stick a little more.. see if that cures things.
