Still not going very well i must have spent so many hours searching for the right car and still not found it!!! Maybe im being too picky!!!
6 - 12 weeks is a more realistic timeframe. Word of advice: prioritise the specs you can't live without, and then only search for those. It saves a lot of wasted time drooling over otherwise appealing cars. E.g. when I was looking, at first I was looking at 3-door and 5-door ads, when in reality, I was never going to buy a 3-door, so by filtering out the 3-door ads I cut down the number of ads I had to go through every day. Just set up a saved search on Autotrader, and visit it a couple of times a day. I used the keywords "GTI DSG"; you could add others like "cruise xenon" etc.
Also, some things are really easy (and cheap) to add, like cruise-control, others are a lot more expensive (xenons, highline), and some are impractical/impossible (sunroof).
To mirror what FamilyDub posted:
DSG - Oh yes!
Xenons - I'd never had them before and they weren't a consideration during my search, but I ended up getting them anyway, and they are AMAZING. I don't know if I'd buy another car without them.
Highline - Yes. I didn't get this, and it would've been nice to have, but sometimes you have to compromise. I honestly don't know what I'm missing out on by not having it, and I'm quite happy with the car as it is.
Sat Nav - Yes. However, a pretty good TomTom costs £150, and specing the RNS510 from factory is something like £2,000. Even used they go for £600+, and I'm not convinced of the morality of buying used RNS510 (unless you know it is a genuine second-hand sale as opposed to a stolen unit). So it's doubtful you'll get it with any reasonably priced car, more so in your budget range. It's dead easy to remove, and an owner would be much better off replacing it with the stock stereo and flogging the RNS510 separately.
Cruise - Yes. To me this is essential. But as stated above, reasonably cheap to retro-fit.
Leather - I also prefer cloth.
Parking sensors - Yes. Essential.
Sunroof. Nice to have. I got it in mine, and enjoy having it, but it definitely wasn't a deal-breaker.