Just like anything else, the DSG oil degrades over time and use.
Agreed, but more importantly, the clutch friction linings and gear synchro rings wear out, and those bits of 'wear' are carried all round the box by the oil.
At 47k miles you should have had the car in for the DSG service by now anyway. I understand that £280 is a substantial amount to pay for a service, but the oil itself is around £13 a litre and it takes about 7 litres.
Actually, intial factory fill is 7.2 litres, but on a routine DSG oil change, it should only use approximately 5.5litres - so if you were charged for 7 litres, I would be asking for some money back!

By T mode I'm assuming you are referring to tiptronic/manual mode yes?
When using the manual upshifts they are faster than in D mode and that is about it.
Hmmmmm, cant really agree with that. Provding that the correct cog has been correctly pre-selected, then upshifts will be identical in time irrespective of being in D, S or tiptronic modes.
There are a few more threads in the MKV section on DSG faults and one or two have "clunky" shifts a little like yours. Not everyone looks in here, so you may be better off posting in the main MKV section (Or I can move this for you if you want!).
In all honesty, it is vital that the OP gets the oil and filter in the DSG changed ASAP. If the fault is stil apparent after that, then you need to be looking at getting the DSG re-adapted, and also make sure the DSG ECU has the latest software map.