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General => General discussion => Topic started by: tg1 on 09 July 2013, 18:52
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Had a little to-do with a chap at work, we usually have a bit of banter (im ok with banter) But today he crossed a line.
Was saying wholly inappropriate things about what he got up to with my 3 year old - obviously false, but dangerous ground to trod if you ask me.
Now i saw red and put him in his place, with a few choice questions and an offer to settle it less civilly.
I'm a bit worried as this exchance was witnessed by about 6 staff, but quite likely in earshot of at least a couple of senior members of staff.
Where do i stand in offering to slap him, is the subject a mitigating circumstance, or have i made a big error in threatening him?
TBF i cant see what i done wrong - whats the legal implications
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Mate I would deal with it in the same manner,you have a right especially such an horrific topic,you will probably get some kind of warning but if they heard what it was about then they will probably unofficialy understand,if not then I would be out the door anyway ,hope it goes ok
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I'd like to think amongst adults what you did was expected and fair. But there could always be one jobsworth sh!t f**k who could try and throw the book at you. I'd forget about it...
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forget about it.
worse comes to worse play the "we were having banter card" tell them that he made inappropriate comments about your daughter as banter and you made a joke about offering him out as banter.
or if it was blatently obvious you weren't joking and couldn't pull that tell them what he said and hope for the best.
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Bring it to your line managers attention, admit you were in the wrong and deal with it before it becomes something massive.
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Avoid any physical conflict, can result in instant sack for both parties :wink:
Was he making sexual remarks about your daughter?
Tell your boss what he said and that you will not be pursuing it this time.
Let your company talk to him about what he said, should shut him up and make the company take your side.
I don't have kids but I would not take anyone saying disgusting things about them, me and my mates say some serious stuff about our mums and other sensitive areas but there is a line and things you just don't touch.
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Bring it to your line managers attention, admit you were in the wrong and deal with it before it becomes something massive.
+1 This.
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Bring it to your line managers attention, admit you were in the wrong and deal with it before it becomes something massive.
+1 This.
Just to add when I say admit you were in the wrong I mean, regarding how you reacted and not that you took total offence to what was being said. You were right to challenge it if you found it offensive but the way it sounds like you did it was way off the mark. Some boundaries aren't for pushing and he clearly pushed yours.
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I'll tell you something, normal people don't talk about young children in that context. I'd be keeping an eye on that one.
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http://www.monster.co.uk/
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http://www.jobcentreonline.com/
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I'll tell you something, normal people don't talk about young children in that context. I'd be keeping an eye on that one.
or taking his eyes out the wrong yin :angry:
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I'll tell you something, normal people don't talk about young children in that context. I'd be keeping an eye on that one,
This I work with a lot of blokes and it's a unwritten rule, and family
Unless you know them really well and the mum jokes are ok ,
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Gross misconduct.
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take his face off with a pizza slicer
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cheers chaps,
seems i have a good angry/crazy face as he come an gave me a sincere apology - seems he didnt think kids were out of bounds?
Kissed and made up as i want to be the grown up - said sorry for threatening him, but i havent withdrawn it.
chavvy/scabby/argosy as it is i wouldnt be able to let it lie twice.
Work are aware, and happy we've sorted it out between us.
Seems to of been behaving a bit better with everyone since so bit of a win for the office.
Cheers Chaps
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Oh well aleast it s sorted. Just don't have him round babysitting.
In Scotland, if someone spoke like that about kids they would end up in the north sea.
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as mentioned earlier, speak to your line manager asap
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the north sea idea seems a good one, but he's lost a lot of face having to back down when i offered a slap to him.
@ gtijamo - so i should cancel him for tonight then :laugh:
He said he'd do it cheaply :lipsrsealed:
I've covered my bum plenty enough, if any problems arise now i dont think work will be sorting them though.
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Oh well aleast it s sorted. Just don't have him round babysitting.
In Scotland, if someone spoke like that about kids they would end up in the north sea.
or the nearest casualty department :wink: