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General => General discussion => Topic started by: budgie on 23 June 2013, 22:52
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right i split from th wife last sept, shes been hanging about with a male friend,, just a friend i do know that! BUT when i went to pick up my son on friday she says i beter tell you before ur son does the man had a right go at my son brought him to tears for saying he,s fat (which he is) Now ive settled down,calmed down put my nasty ways behind me, found someone who love me for who i am now, quiet let everything go ect, now do i take the old me back and go and teach this thingy a leason for having my son in tears when he is nothing more than a friend of hers or do i do it sencibly and just talk to him and warn him ect. fuming aint the word!!! ex said leave it i sorted it and txt him saying dont come back. in my world( ex world thats not sorting it!!) i dont want to upset the new girlfriend she knows my past but still its my son and to be truely honst i thin she would understand,, what do u reckon, take the old me back for one day or just a good old plain warning???? and he knows im coming!!! or ive got money :whistle:
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tbh mate id be the bigger man and have a friendly chat, if he gets aggressive or a knob just walk away and leave him to be a idiot childish bully that he is,
Failure that just let your ex mrs deal with it
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IMO,
& I've been in the same position... Talk to your son and explain that what he said may have been correct but it's not polite, and when you say things like that to some people they will get upset.
I would then have a quiet word with your ex m8 and tell him to back the feck off from your child and if he can't take the honest (but inpolite) opinion of a child he needs to grow up!
If he does it again you will then take the matter into your own hands and sort him out face to face... & just see how quickly he will back down!!
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if it was my son fatso would already have been knocked out :grin: but i would also give my boy a boot in the arse if he was being cheeky for no reason :wink:
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the fact that your considering "do i go back to the old me" shows that its the "old" you and you know what the correct thing to do is
obviously you didnt want to be like this anymore and changed.
theres a reason youve changed... keep that change up.
just leave it. tell him he has no right to talk to your son like that and leave it be.
then have a word with your son, tell him that theres people out there who will say not very nice things and things they proberbly shouldnt.
wownt be the first time someone has said something not very nice to him im sure and wownt be the last either.
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the fact that your considering "do i go back to the old me" shows that its the "old" you and you know what the correct thing to do is
obviously you didnt want to be like this anymore and changed.
theres a reason youve changed... keep that change up.
just leave it. tell him he has no right to talk to your son like that and leave it be.
then have a word with your son, tell him that theres people out there who will say not very nice things and things they proberbly shouldnt.
wownt be the first time someone has said something not very nice to him im sure and wownt be the last either.
very wise words!
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i'd get all the facts first. What exactly did this guy say to your son?
If all he did was shout at him then is the appropriate response to hit him? i think not. Trust me if this guy is fat, then your son telling him so probably hurt him enough.
your son was rude to someone and should still be reprimanded/punished regardless of what has happened.
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i'd get all the facts first. What exactly did this guy say to your son?
If all he did was shout at him then is the appropriate response to hit him? i think not. Trust me if this guy is fat, then your son telling him so probably hurt him enough.
your son was rude to someone and should still be reprimanded/punished regardless of what has happened.
the fat man called someone else on the street fat and my son just pointed out to him that he,s fat too, which he didnt like and went nuts at him for.
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IMO,
& I've been in the same position... Talk to your son and explain that what he said may have been correct but it's not polite, and when you say things like that to some people they will get upset.
I would then have a quiet word with your ex m8 and tell him to back the feck off from your child and if he can't take the honest (but inpolite) opinion of a child he needs to grow up!
If he does it again you will then take the matter into your own hands and sort him out face to face... & just see how quickly he will back down!!
+1 here mate, you don't want him making life unbearable for your lad either.
If he does it again then its game on and he might see a load of VeeDub nutters turning up too!
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Take son out for some exercise, swimming or cycling or a bit of footie.
Ex says she has dealt with it so let it go.
If he appears again, well let out the old you!
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Take son out for some exercise, swimming or cycling or a bit of footie.
Ex says she has dealt with it so let it go.
If he appears again, well let out the old you!
you've got it wrong. his son isn't fat. his son called ex's friend fat and ex's friend shouted at him
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Take son out for some exercise, swimming or cycling or a bit of footie.
Ex says she has dealt with it so let it go.
If he appears again, well let out the old you!
I thought the ex's friend said his son was fat too...
in that case my reply is still valid, however you need to have a sit down with your son and tell him that somethings you cant say... such as calling people fat or other not so nice things.
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Take son out for some exercise, swimming or cycling or a bit of footie.
Ex says she has dealt with it so let it go.
If he appears again, well let out the old you!
you've got it wrong. his son isn't fat. his son called ex's friend fat and ex's friend shouted at him
Not how it reads to me!
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If your son was being cheeky to me and getting on my nerves, I'd might say something nasty back too. Depends on what exactly your son said. If he was being cheeky and just said "you're fat", that's a world of difference from "ha ha ha you're a fat b*st*rd".
Your son needs to be educated that saying things like that probably made the guy feel the same way the kid felt. I know I was a cheeky fecking sod as a kid and back in the day, would have been clipped around the ear from whoever I offended, and then my parents after. Being shouted at and being reduced to tears is nothing in comparison.
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Your ex might be making the whole thing up to cause trouble. It's not unknown.
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I know I was a cheeky fecking sod as a kid and back in the day, would have been clipped around the ear from whoever I offended, and then my parents after. Being shouted at and being reduced to tears is nothing in comparison.
+1, you sound a bit older than me, but still when I was a kid I said something I shouldn't have I got a feking good hiding off my parents, and a few of my mates got one off who ever then said something too. soon taught us.
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If your son was being cheeky to me and getting on my nerves, I'd might say something nasty back too. Depends on what exactly your son said. If he was being cheeky and just said "you're fat", that's a world of difference from "ha ha ha you're a fat b*st*rd".
Your son needs to be educated that saying things like that probably made the guy feel the same way the kid felt. I know I was a cheeky fecking sod as a kid and back in the day, would have been clipped around the ear from whoever I offended, and then my parents after. Being shouted at and being reduced to tears is nothing in comparison.
he is well educated!! the fat man accualy called someone on the street and my son turned round and said your fat to!! and thats when he ripped into him so basicly if that fat thingy didnt call a stranger in the street fat infront of my son my son wouldnt have pointed out that he is also fat!!!! and cant realy call other people.
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Well I would advise your son to be a little more discreet as if he says something to some fat kid at school he may get sh!t kicked out of him!
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i'd speak to him but see the simmering hatered in my eyes and give him a very real warning that he'd never forget. or worst yet get one of your mates who looks big and tough and tell him to go around the blokes place and warn the bloke that not even he (your big mate) would want to do that to the kid :wink:
and then teach your son the art of subtly, its always fun watching a big fat guy taking a second to workout what you mean and by the time they have the subject has moved on :laugh:
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Edited it.
Id have a word with your son about being rude to others and have a word with the guy and appologise on your sons behalf. And if the guy is being a little b*tch then let him be.
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I think i wouldnt have thought nothing about it and just knocked him out and thought about it later. Blood will always be blood.
F*ck him who the f*ck does he think he is?
Im a gentle bloke. I got patients but if someone said something to my son and made him cry, id send the guy home in an ambulance!!!
or this :grin:
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I think i wouldnt have thought nothing about it and just knocked him out and thought about it later. Blood will always be blood.
F*ck him who the f*ck does he think he is?
Im a gentle bloke. I got patients but if someone said something to my son and made him cry, id send the guy home in an ambulance!!!
or this :grin:
Lols thats my evil side without thinking. Or you could just quote my new edited quote :laugh:
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Edited it.
Id have a word with your son about being rude to others and have a word with the guy and appologise on your sons behalf. And if the guy is being a little b*tch then let him be.
id rather poke my eyes out with a sharp stick than appologiise to him!!!! the man who also chanced my wife while i was at sea!!!!! if that man hadnt called a person on the street fat in the first place my son wouldnt have pointed out that he is fat too.. if anything my son did well and is good with observation.
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just tell the fat man if he does it again he's gonna get his chins bashed in. maybe tell your son to keep his opinions to himself if he's unsure
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just tell the fat man if he does it again he's gonna get his chins bashed in. maybe tell your son to keep his opinions to himself if he's unsure
an make sure you call him a fat wa*k to his face see if he shouts at you :smug: then tell your son to take a dump in his shoes next time he is round his house :grin:
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So wat you gonna do then op?
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So wat you gonna do then op?
Theres only one way to settle this. FIIIIIIIGHHHHTTTT LOLS
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So wat you gonna do then op?
Theres only one way to settle this. FIIIIIIIGHHHHTTTT LOLS
Typical brummy :rolleyes: :grin:
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So wat you gonna do then op?
Theres only one way to settle this. FIIIIIIIGHHHHTTTT LOLS
Typical brummy :rolleyes: :grin:
Errrm I BEG YOUR FARKING PARDON???? You want some? Yeah? Only joking Lols.
You cant say typical brummie because it happens everywere.