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General => General discussion => Topic started by: Wazzzer on 02 October 2012, 20:13
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As above, what have been your experiences with it and how have you come out the other side if at all?
Sorry for a serious post for once :lipsrsealed:
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I'll kick off then. :whistle:
I was prescribed Fluoxetine and took it for a month. Came to the conclusion that I was unhappy rather than depressed, and didn't like the strange way the Prozac made me feel, so stopped taking it.
My INTJ personality type didn't help as I analyse and think about things/everything way too much.
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I cant even go there...
Thom
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Ask "Mountains" perspective...He wanted to top himself, although he told the Police otherwise when they knocked on his door after I dialled 999 last New Years Eve.
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Fool!
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I can understand that it can be a difficult subject to talk about.
I was diagnosed with moderate depression today hence my questions.
For me it has been building up for around 18 months with my wife having possible thyroid cancer which thankfully was only an adenoma, still scary though as it affected her in a really bad way; mimicking post natal depression and generally messing with her head
Then my own skin cancer scare which was drawn out for months before I was given the all clear. With that my oldest is being a complete nightmare (she's nearly five) and I'm just generally feeling crap about myself at work. I now can't sleep more than around 3 hours a night as I'm thinking about stupid things and I'm very restless, irritable and generally a complete batard most of the time.
Going for a full blood test tomorrow to see if anything there could be the source of the problem then back to see my doctor next week for results and possible counselling/drugs depending on what we think would work best. It's going to be a long slog but I'll get there. I'm not at the suicide stage and I don't think I will be, dying scares me as it is so I wouldn't want to bring it forward lol
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I suffered pretty badly when my first marriage broke up 12 years ago, the mistake i made was taking fairly heavy anti-depressants and hitting the bottle at the same time, i was signed off work too so i pretty much crashed and burned for about 6 months and to be honest the drugs didn't work for me as it was family and friends who got me back on the right road but i have a close relative that has just started on A/D's following a bereavement and they are working well for her.
I'm happily married again now and have a pretty good life but i still get days where i just can't drag myself out of a feeling of doom and gloom but they pass and i've found that just communicating with those around you brings everything out in the open and then the problem is shared, i'm lucky i've got some great people around me but its taken time and patience to get here.
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That's the thing, apart from my missus and sometimes my parents I don't have a great deal of people to talk to about general day to day stuff so it just backs up.
I've always said the usual thing about people with depression "what the hell have they got to be depressed about" now I know
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Might be worth trying to get some counselling as having a good talk and getting things off your chest can help a lot, depression is a bit like a trip switch in your brain that goes when it reaches a limit as to what it can cope with and its different for everyone, most people can sail through life dealing with whatever is thrown at them but a lot of people struggle with depression and don't even realise it, the worse thing to do is nothing as there are so many different solutions that mean you don't have to suffer.
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Ask "Mountains" perspective...He wanted to top himself, although he told the Police otherwise when they knocked on his door after I dialled 999 last New Years Eve.
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Fool!
And that, was a good job well done! He wasn't to know that the Police would turn up, anymore than we didn't know that he was "Joking"
This very Forum helped me through some incredibly difficult times last year, most knew nothing about what was going on, but were equally important in keeping me sane!
The few that knew, kept low key, but were only a phone call away.
Never underestimate the power of Internet friends
Thom
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Unfortunately many have been there -but on the up side it means you're no the only one and other can relate / help you out through their experiences ! My wife is suffering again whilst pregnant :sad: I also had depression and was on Fluoxetine for about 8 months.
Start Exercising, especially in a sociable environment i.e go for a run/cycle with a mate and get the heart pumping - have a good chat while you out there with them.
Start a diary or blog (even if it's anonymous) and rant / blow off steam that way, it helps.
Everything may seem like a major issue and hard to work through, but keep persisting and you'll get there.
oh and one last thing
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Never underestimate the power of the web, I wouldn't of guessed in a million years that any of you guys have been through this whilst I have been a member of this forum. Congrats you lot. Oh and in the spirit of the forum... wazzer man the f**k up, install a 20vt on megasquirt and ask a few questions about converting to 4wd :lipsrsealed:
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Im with Thom on this one, I've caused upset by commenting on this subject before and I can't find the link (must have been deleted)....
I've had a neck injury for the last two weeks and my daily dose has been as follows....
10mg Diazepam 4x daily
50mg Tramadol 4x daily
100mg Naproxen 4x daily
50mg Pregabalin 3x daily (epilepsy pills and anxiety blockers)
All I can say, i've never hallucinated so much in my life. I couldn't define between reality and non-reality!
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Ps. Wolverine, we've spoken before. If you ever wanna pm or speak on the phone. I will happily oblige.....
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Well that would explain alot of your posts in the past few weeks Mr Coys :grin:
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I've been depressed since the day before forever, was on tablets years ago but not for me. i can deal with it though and usually a spliff or two sorts me out if i feel bad. I guess i'm more or less recovered. Its more seasonal affective disorder i get when the light starts to go. Its stress that proper kills me....that sh#t does real damage. My priorities are to live a stress free life and i know i'll know i'll be fine. Depression is nothing to e ashamed off.....we're not robots.
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I've suffered with severe depression since I was 14 (I'm now 21) and since that was down to bullying at school because of my sexuality, and obviously teenagers are just w*nkers (I'm bi) & hearing voices (I suffer with psychosis too), which has led to self harming, and numerous attempts of ending things on my terms, and failing, obviously, otherwise I wouldn't be writing this...
I'm on fluoxetine, which is basically just a pill to keep your moods level, it doesn't actually do anything. And I was taking risperidone too, which helped me control the voices and pretty much knock me out at night, but since falling pregnant, I've had to stop taking the risperidone because of the harm it can do to babies. And I'm struggling, everything is getting harder, and more challenging every day.
I think people fail to realise that 9/10 they're doing more harm than good by noticing & acknowledging the fact you're depressed, and tip-toeing around you, rather than just being up front & going 'look, we know you're finding this hard, but if you talk to us, we can at least try & help, even if we can't understand'
Hope you start feeling better soon fella, it's always easier when you talk to someone who knows what you're on about instead of someone who looks at you like you need to be wearing a special coat.. :rolleyes:
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Well that would explain alot of your posts in the past few weeks Mr Coys :grin:
legend :grin:
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Occasionally I get a bit down, but then I remind myself how f**king awesome I am and I soon cheer up.
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........i'm pretty content at the moment, and i've got a big dick, that keeps me pretty happy.
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whats his name big boy
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Been thru it a few years back and still have the odd wobble.
I had counselling for 18months and it was great. You need to find a counsellor you 'click' with though.
I never tried my tablets. Walking therapy (whatever the weather) and biking. I used the gym a lot but outside exercise is excellent.
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I can see it from the other side of the coin. Like Mrs Kempie, my missus has/does suffer from both depression, and psychosis. She grew up in an abusive (physical) family who were basically alchoholics, so suffered from her early teens. She was sectioned when she was 14, and never really got over it all til recently. She was on respiridone too. She was alot better after we met, although not 100%. She then fell pregnant and reduced her meds, although never came completely off them, and gave birth to our daughter five years ago friday gone. Within hours of giving birth, she had relapsed and was a completely different person. It was massively scary for me, obviously with a newborn to think about too, as I'd never seen anything like it. She ended up being sectioned again, but did get better. She changed her meds, and is now on Quetiapine for the psychosis, and venlaflaxine for A/D. She has come a massive way since giving birth, where as before she didn't like even being alone in public as the anxiety took over, she has held down a steady job for a couple of years now, has passed her driving test (although she is probably the worse driver I've ever known!), but she is a completely different person. She is now 13 weeks pregnant with our second, and although we are obviously thinking about it, we are doing everything we can to ensure it doesn't happen again. She is staying on her meds at the normal dosage, as there is absolutely no evidence that it could affect the baby, and she is having a home birth, as she was left in the delivery suite for hours alone afterwards with no contact. (she gave birth a 5am so I'd gone home at 7 for some kip. I came back at 1 and she had seriously deteriorated.)
Anyway, what I'm trying to get accross, without sounding big headed, is that I gave her the stability she needed. I think a steady and (as much as possible) stressless home life is key. Someone who is understanding but not patronising to listen to your problems will go a long way. Speak to your wife/girlfriend, and tell them that she may need to be patient from time to time, and not judge or get angry with you. Women are a strange species and get all hormonal and moody as we well know, but if she can bite her tongue on occasion, we would appreciate them all the more. :wink:
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Hydrogen peroxide and some rubber tyre crumb...I'll build one of them rockets in my shed then.
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Addendum:
Opps, this clearly should be in the Bloodhound SSC thread.
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Yeah wife understands it all as she went through it with her thyroid problems. She's the one who told me to go to the docs too.
I'm leaning more towards the counselling side of it as I've never really been able to talk about how all the scares and other problems have made me feel so I might be able to open up finally
Cheers for all the replies so far. Well apart from the happy jokey replies, this thread is about depression and you're lightening the mood, shame on you
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One thing I definitely need to do is start up at the gym again. I'll be looking into it this week as I need to start doing some weights to get some blood flowing
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Also regular dosage of vitamin C & D among other vitamins is good for depression. Alot of depressive symptoms can be related to a lack of nutrition. Healthy body leads to healthy mind and all that. Works for me anyway!!
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Nice to see people on here are frank and open with each other about their problems. Nobody is perfect and we all have are own personal problems.
Its good to talk and a problem shared is a problem halved. The biggest thing I have learnt is not to bottle up your problems but seek help and advice from friends or professionals in difficult times.
I know we take the piss and have the banter alot on this forum which is why I joined, but if I know if I have any problems whether its emotional, life stresses and even mechanical problems etc I will always get help and support from you guys.
Keep your chin up folks :wink:
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priceless! ha ha ha :laugh:
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Just start a 10week cycle on test-e and use that new found man anger to give the misses a good 10 weeks and channel the remainder at the gym.
On a serious note, I know what you mean, Ive started to become a grumpy old man at 23, I think whats the point of working hard, paying a mortgage etc..... This ended up having an effect on home life as I'd just would be miserable when I got home, I hate my job and I've never really tried to enjoy myself. Never saw a doctor about it, just dealt with it in my own way. I am still being somewhat grumpy now but not as bad, instead I've gone f*ck this and let myself go, booked a trip to Germany to see friends in osnabruck with the misses. Next year a few friends and a mechanic I have got to know through a recommendation on here are heading to the ring, followed by a hopefully trying to organize a small/short snowboarding trip at the end of next year as I've always wanted to do it along with the ring. But I do understand where you are coming from my sister this year had a cyst on her thyroid to also discover cancer their as well, but all has gone well.
Not sure what to recommend as everyones different, I found doing things I've always wanted to do and make time for myself is what I really needed, it gives life more of a goal rather than the usual work day grind with no point.
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Sorry to hear wazzer. I can't imagine it's a good feeling and like many others here I can relate in some respects.
We have all had sh!t go on in our lives somewhat whether it be family related, friends, work or even ourselves.
I have had some serious crap happen in recent years that a select few know. Granted not as bad as cancer scares or lost family/friends but still, it's all stuff that you don't need.
My advice would be try and do things you enjoy, set yourself a goal of some shape or form and see it through. Currently mine is trying to complete Burnout Paradise before Halo 4 comes out but that's me...probably should go to the gym instead but f**k it.
You know from earlier responses that there are a bunch of great guys here, some being proper nutjobs really but we are all the same at the end of the day.
Just try staying positive. :kiss:
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i think most people go through some form of it at some point ,but like said all people deal wih it in different ways,i wouldnt admit it at the time but a few years ago i kinda lost the plot.Usual stuff money problems working all the hrs there is just to pay mortgage etc ,then the old man died after goin into hosp for something non related and pretty much broke the camels back ,wouldnt talk to mrs started drinkin most days etc etc,in the end left home (mrs and 3 kids),let my house go the lot ,at the time didnt think much of it as such ,but look back now and think i must have been nuts,luckily the mrs was there for me still no matter what ,and alls good again ,prob happiest been for a long time ,so things do get better mate
wow thats the most ive written on the forum haha
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Thing to remember is everyone has their own way of dealing with it and the key is finding the right way.
I was having a rubbish time a fair few years ago - I was in a job I hated and couldn't see anyway out of it. I went to see my GP but he was on holiday so I saw the Locum instead. He said I wasn't the first from my workplace he'd seen to have the same sort of issues and asked me whether I wanted anything to help. I said that I didn't want drugs as this would be masking the probelm, not dealing with it.
He then gave me the best piece of advice I've had for feeling down. He gave me a 2-week sicknote then said "Right - I want you to do whatever YOU want to do during this time off. Try and find a different job if you can, but the rest of the time, do what you enjoy". I ended up up House-sitting whilst my brother was on holiday, had the house to myself and had no issues with anyone trying to call me coz no-one knew the number. My mobile was switched off. It was awesome. I put my CV in with an agency where they lived and then moved in after 4 weeks as I had got a new job. It was EXACTLY what a needed - a fresh start.
Not saying it'll work for everyone but you need to change your routine.