Sorry to read this dude
Firstly get yourself a German shepherd, best security money can buy trust me
Products wise:
Zaino wash mitts with the rubber insert glove rocks and are not expensive,
Vikan brushes all way.
Britemax interior cleaner for the money is bang on and dilutable,
Bilthamber fine clay, good product and water can be used as lube if you haven't got a dedicated,
Tardis for tar removel hands down, best bang for buck product as far as tar removel goes,
Britemax Grimeout is fantastic for a pre wash bug assassination.
Wax, take your pick mate there's so many and they all pretty much acheive the same results.
Blackmax is an awesome glaze, easy on/off and leaves a slick finish, cg's EZ creme is another gooden.
Polishes I'd suggest menzerna range for vag finishes, also consider carpro fixer which I'm using a lot atm,
Zaino z6 is a great value for money qd imo,
Shampoo, Britemax cleanmax is great value for money and works well, economical too and good for maintenance washes, for deep cleaning I'd suggest body detox by farrecla, great shampoo but not for maintenance imo, leaves no residue, no gloss enhancers, very squeaky clean paint afterwoulds.
Megs glass cleaner,(blue clear liquid that you dilute) great for cleaning and leaves a streak free finish.
Hope this helps anyway.