thanks for all the messages guys
i've thought about it and i'm now not so annoyed about the car as you can't change the past and 'what ifs' are pointless. a bit of life experience yes... i think it's the shock that got me the most, haven't ever crashed before!
had a look today (was a bit dark for photos) and the engine is now slanted. i can rock it back and forth and there's a piece that's snapped at the bottom back right under the coolant bubble, i think it's the subframe or where the engine mounts or something, i'm guessing this means writeoff?