its kool dude...so er....u didnt mention wot make stereo u had then?
So from wot ur telling me now..u have what i no is a "PC3-08" bare end ISO lead:
http://www.incarexpress.co.uk/catimages/accs/iso.jpgOnce u have wired this in....(remote is not important to patch in at this point) then u can simply just plug in the loom which came with your radio into this e.g:
http://www.geocities.com/exclusive_part/ken16-iso_3.jpg (in the event of having a kenwood radio and if so...some kenwood radio's have a small separate remote wire coming directly off the rear of the headunit without the loom plugged in.
If not...many units will come with looms like this:
http://www.justkenwood.co.uk/images/iso_loom.jpg where u notice that there are spare bare end wires which are the 2 blue cables..one usually striked with a white stripe being the remote output...and the other all blue cable being the electic antenna for those cars with electric aerials. Now usually you can use either as a remote as both send power signal down those wires when the head unit is on...but i'v come across some where if you wire it to the electric antenna, you will only have ur bass on when the actual source on the radio is switched to "radio" as of supposed to CD or Aux (if applicable).
and then turns off again when u activate sourse to CD or Aux!?
So in this case..wire your remote cable to the blue and white striked cable being the allocated stereo remote output!
Hope this is more specific. (i'v used kenwood as an example but you may have some other brand where the same situation will apply)